will they hate me?

Question

im 14 almost 15 and i found out i was pregnant a week ago and i dont know exactly what to do.....is all my friends and family going to hate me if i keep thebaby....i really dont wanna give it up because it will be all i have and i love babys plz help me

Answer 1

If they do hate you, they have serious problems. It is your baby. If you can care for it well, I'm happy for you. If not, you should find a loving family that will let you come visit. Maybe one that will let you take your child back later, if need be. Best of luck. ^_^

Answer 2

No, they won't hate you. They'll get upset, no doubt, but they will get over it. You, however, are going to have SERIOUS problems. The first and foremost will be financial (how are you going to pay for the medical costs?). Second of all, you are awfully young to raise a child when you are still a child yourself (yes, you are). You haven't had a chance to live life and a baby will certainly put a serious crimp on that. You MUST have parenting classes and NOW. You MUST have proper medical attention. You MUST finish your education (to have a chance for a decent life w/your baby). You MUST file court papers to establish paternity (because the father is or will be financially responsible for child support that you will need).

There is so much you need but this is not the place. You need all the support you can get from your family and friends. This is going to be VERY rough, but you WILL make it. Don't give up. . . regardless.

Answer 3

Your parents and friends may be shocked at first because you are pregnant and by the fact that you want to keep the baby. But your parents will most likely be with you. And I'm not going to lie to you some of your friends might turn their backs on you for doing this. But you know what it doesn't matter. Who cares what other people think. The important thing is that you want the baby. And you will be a great mom if you truly want to be. Good luck.

Answer 4

You are too young to be a parent alone. Is the father going to help? Your parents may not want to raise a grandchild now. They won't hate you but be prepared to get alot of lectures. A child will take over your life. You need to be prepared to stop being a kid, stop going out with friends, hanging out at the mall etc. Money will go to baby supplies. No more spending on yourself. School will be hard with a baby to care for all day, even if you get daycare you will be responsible for the child at night. Don't go into parenthood unprepared, get the facts and open your eyes to what it really involves.

Answer 5

Wow you are so young. I dont think anyone will hate you. They may be angry at first but give them time. Everyone will eventually come around once the shock has wore off. If you want to keep your baby good for you just make sure you can provide for this child and not resent him/her because you made a mistake. Im going to warn you its going to be so hard. I am 25 and just had my first child and Im married and Im having a really hard time adjusting to motherhood. i love him more than anything but its the hardest thing Ive ever done in my life. Your life is no longer yours its dedicated to your precious baby. Good Luck

Answer 6

the best thing you can do is to keep everything open and honest with your friends and family most likely they will be upset but will be glad you didnt hide it from them or try to because being pregnant isnt somthing thats easily hidden anyway .. you will get big you will have all the things go on and you really will need all the support you can get being so young , i would say please tell your friends and family and tell them how you feel they may understand and be helpful to you even if they werent ready for you to have a child at that age i had my first one at 18 and it was extremely tough then and im sure for you being 14 it will be even harder for you considering you cant get a job and you will need help when it comes to school best thing to do is be honest and open about it and stay in school get your education and do your best for you and the baby each and every day

Answer 7

I really hope your parents will not hate you because you are going to need their support no matter what at this point. The reality is, however, they are human, and may not react the way you want them to react.

Your friends, however, may not be able to adapt to the new lifestyle you will need to adopt to raise a baby. They may surprise you, though.

I am very concerned about your statement that this baby is all you have...I am concerned you are looking for someone to love. This would suggest a serious problem in the relationship with your parents. This baby needs strong people to raise it. If you are looking for affection from this child you are missing in your life, you may not be able to give this baby what he/she needs.

I had my daughter in my 20's and felt completely overwhelmed at times. You are much younger than I was. Please think about your decision, as you have 2 lives in your hands. Maybe see a therapist, a neutral party to help.

Good Luck to you.

Answer 8

My god!! You are 14 years old! You are not even out of high school! You do not have the means to surport a baby! What kind of life do you think you can give the baby at 14? A baby need more then just love. Baby's are expensive. You need to give the baby up so it will have a better life. Put it's needs before your own.

Answer 9

I don't think they will hate you but your friends parents may not have as much respect for you after getting pregnant at that age, it also might cause them to wonder if you are a good friend for their child to have.

As for your family they will probably be very upset with you for being so irrisponsible, I know that if my daughter was pregnant at that age I would be very upset with her.

Sounds like you haven't told your parents yet. You should talk to them.

I wish you luck because I can't imagine having a baby at that age.

Answer 10

If you were my daughter I wouldnt hate you, but I dont know your family so I cant say. They should all be supportive of you though , even though you did make a mistake. But its not the babys fault. Your family may be mad at first naturally, but things will change with time.