hi i am a 17 year old boy and as far as i can remember i have been attracted to men and women. I wouldn't want to have sex with another man since the thought scares me, and i could never imagine myself with another man. I do think women are the most beautiful things in the world but don't find them sexually attractive but i still can imagine myself being with one. I dont think i am gay because i know i would never have sex with another man i would rather have sex with a women yet i find men more sexually attractive am i gay and kidding myself or is this normal ? i also find when i look at porn on the internet i look to see the man doing his job on the women gay porn does not turn me on as much as watching man on woman. i also like to come on the net and go on chatrooms pretending to be a girl and i enjoy the attention i get. What is wrong with my am i gay or am i straight?
2006-11-01 11:22:58 · 10 answers · asked by LostBoi 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You're probably not as confused as you say you are. Your body knows what it wants, even if your mind is unwilling to accept it.
I suggest that you avoid sexual relationships with everyone until you've had a chance to form some non-sexual relationships with people who identify as gay, in addition to the relationships you already have with people who identify as straight.
Once you get to know some gay people, and understand that they are just people, like everyone else, then you might be surprised how your feelings inside change about your own sexual identity.
2006-11-01 12:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Todd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't say I'm an expert on the subject because nobody really is. If you are attracted to men there is a great possibility that you are in fact gay. If you haven't yet heard of the expression "coming out of the closet" maybe you should experiment with your undecided sexuality. Some people say that we are all bi and its not a bad thing due to we all need to experience the other side of ourselves. I have known gay people that thought at one time they would rather be with a women. But when push came to shove they desided why live a life that was truly not them. I dont know if this helped but i hope it has given you something.
2006-11-01 20:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by Wild_Thing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I can totally relate. That's how I was when I first discovered I wasn't straight. I don't want to tell you what you should experience but let me tell you mine. I was brought up to believe I was straight and I always searched for the opposite sex because that's what we do. And believe me the thought of having sex scared the crap out of me too. I also have weird curiosities when looking at porn but they are all symptoms of being in the closet. Also the fact that you are concealing your identity for the attention is a sexual fantasy but is no indication of what you are attracted to in an intimate manner. Whoever you have conversations with and want to stare into their eyes, and be held in their arms and vice versa, and want to know everything about them, whatever gender they are will give you an idea of what you are. In my opinion, you are contradicting yourself because it helps hide the truth. Just be open. Sexuality is a scale, not black or white.
2006-11-01 21:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by stumpedwithname 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men in general scare me too! I'm 38...
First, you are only 17. Give yourself a break. Don't be pressured to do anything you are not ready for. I highly suggest getting some therapy. I've always been confused and uncomfortable around sex. It took me 5 years to decide that I was gay, thanks to my religious programing. Once I came out, I made the mistake of pushing myself too fast and I ended up in many horrible situations that I was not ready for. Then I ended up a drug addict. Now that I'm clean, 15 years later, I am still left with making sense what I feel, vs. what I see in my world. I want to say wait for the right person to come along. When you are with the person you are supposed to be with, you will know it. My first time with a guy when I was 16, looking back was quite magic... he swept me off my feet, and being with him was new, and he was patient, and good to me. I just want you to know that you are great exactly the way you are right now, even though you are going through this... I want you to love yourself, and know that you will figure it out. Don't let anyone tell you that you are wrong, and don't be ashamed of who you are, even if you don't know yet! Lot's of love to you.
Love,
Gregory
2006-11-01 19:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It started off with a simple movie, a movie about respect for gay people. i asked myself a question: should i be gay or straight? I chose straight. However, as time wen on, i realised i had feelings for men and realised that it was no choice, no decision of my own. Being gay is not sinful, since love feels right, and we can love, we can care, and we can achieve. I am closeted now and do not know when i will come out, but when i will, i will do it with pride and respect. My love for men, that is my sexuality. My love for people, that is my humanity. I do not hate people who hate me and others like me. Perhaps I shall die for expressing my love, but after all, does love not exist in everyone? For i know, that no matter what, no matter how i change, i will still love. I know my god loves me, and I love him. He cares for everyone, anbd i do not believe a god that created laughter, love, care, could be a spiteful god.
if anyone wants to talk, i am here for you, no matter what.
2006-11-01 20:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jake K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm I'm sorry but you sound pretty gay to me. If you don't find a women sexually attractive, then how can you say you can see yourself having sex with one? I suggest you try having sex with a woman first, then if you feel comfortable find someone gay with whom you feel comfortable enough to experiment little by little...
2006-11-01 19:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by Freddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for starters...nothing is wrong with you... you are at a prime sexual age and it is natural for people to have same sex attaractions and or thoughts at times... you could be gay, straight or even bi sexual and nothing is wrong or bad about being wither of the 3... you can't knock it or even know until you try it right? my suggestion would be to explore both sexes in a safe heathly way... and remember its ok to be confused and unsure alot of people are and have been you will figure it out...
2006-11-01 19:29:54 · answer #7 · answered by itsjos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time and when you are comfortable enough to explore with the right people your own age, you will find yourself. Don't stress on the labels.
2006-11-01 19:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are confused
i think you are also the medium between gay and strait
bisexual
2006-11-01 19:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by im lost come and find me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think your gay, its a good chance that you are, but you are definantley bi-sexual
2006-11-01 19:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by jh_smith_jr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋