Is Marriage as bad as people say it is?

Question

I have heard from different people about there take on marriage. Some say its "awesome" others say it sucks. What is your thoughts on it???

Answer 1

I have enjoyed every minute of it.

Answer 2

Now a days many people go into marriages with blinders on. They don't think about many things. Marriage takes 100% from both sides. It is a job, but you can make it work, but it's a team effort. It can be awesome if both people know what they want and there is trust, honesty and respect. It sucks when there is no honesty, people act like jerks, there is no trust, and people lie to one another and act like kids. Now, you may think you know someone but when you marry them you see the real person and sometimes it's not pretty. People today bail out on marriage very quickly at times without trying to fix the problems or resolve them. I think if you are in any kind of abusive marriage you should get out of it because it is not a marriage, or there is adultery, or other bad things. But people really need to be mature when they tie the knot, I think marriage should be something that should be hard to do because people don't take it serious, they are not looking at the big picture. I think its truly beautiful when you see an old couple who have been married 80 plus years and they still have that look of love in their eyes when they look at each other, because they have that real love. People don't have that anymore. But, I think marriage when enter into on the right principals can be a great thing.

Answer 3

Marriage like life is as good or as bad as you wish to make it!

I suggest pre-marrital counseling to all who think about getting married or planning a marriage.

Marriage is a big step in a persons life with a lot of responsibilities that go with it. If your husband/wife is not on the same page or working toward the same goals then marriage could be a living hell. If you put your spouse's needs above yours and your spouce puts yours above theirs and make decisions together for the greater good of the relationship then you've got a real good start. You must be able to communicate openly with your partner about anything, and not nag, put down, speak in anger, physically abuse, mentally abuse or emotionally abuse each other. Never go into a relationship of any kind thinking you can change the other person. You can't! A person can only change themselves. So if you're thinking about marriage, make sure your partner has no bad habbits you can't live with all the rest of your life. Marriage is a committment between two people that will include children at some point in time. If your spouse emphatically refuses to have children but you want them don't marry that person, or don't have children or your life will be a living hell. Do not marry just for the children's sake either, the children will some day grow up and leave and that leaves you with your spouse. If there is no love in the marriage the children will have little to no love or very confusing views about love growing up and in most casses end up abused.

It sounds complicated but it really isn't. It's just work not many people today are willing to put into a relationship. A good marriage is very rewarding. But a good marriage is selfless!

Answer 4

I think marriage is a wonderful thing. When two people love each other enough to express their vows of love to not only each other, but before God or whatever they believe in, and friends and family, it makes loving that person so much more celebratory. Marriage is a lot of hard work, and a lot of effort, but when you love the person enough you will do whatever you can to make the marriage work. The most important thing to a good marriage is to remember that you are part of a team and that you need to work together to find answers to questions and work together to keep the marriage alive and well. All the hard work and effort of marriage makes the rewards all worth it in the end! Besides married people live longer because deep inside we all want to find that someone who loves us, no matter our imperfections. Loving & being with this person for the rest of ones life is just the medicine the doctor ordered

Answer 5

The people that settled, the people that married for the wrong reasons will say it sucks because spending your life with the wrong person would be hellish.

The people that waited for true love and married someone that was thier best friend, those people live wonderful happy lives with great marriages and think it is awesome.

Answer 6

i think it is wonderful. learned alot, wish it had not ended, but c'est la vie. we may reunite at some point cause we still love each other, but at the time, we were'nt smart enough to compromise, work on our differences and communicate properly. it's a good thing. don''t be discouraged by what has gone wrong in someone else's life or marriage. you are independent of that. the most important lesson i learned is to share expectations that you each have of each other, i say this because it seems that we say we don't have any, however we really do and when they don't pan out, things get fuzzy and it will definitely affect a good line of communication. when you get married, you are no longer an "I" you become part of an "us". Marriage is good

Answer 7

Depends on who you are married to. If you are considering marriage, make sure it is to your best friend. This is my second marriage and with my first I would have told you DON'T DO IT, but now, man I am telling you, it can be the greatest thing in the world. I was fortunate enough to find my best friend and then actually get the opportunity to spend the rest of my life with them. If you can find that then don't skip the chance. If you have to keep any secrets or can't completely be yourself with that someone, then it's not marriage material.

Answer 8

I have been married twice. Each time it started out great. The first lasted 20 years until he found someone else. The second lasted 6 years until we could afford to split up.

They each had their good and bad times, but I still think that marriage to the right person is great. I just haven't married the right man yet.

Answer 9

I have been married 12 years. It can be awesome at times and others times it does suck. Every relationship goes through its ups and downs. Hopefully most marriages have more ups than downs.

Answer 10

My first marriage was O.K. for me not so much for her. I was immature, she was very mature. I was making minimum wage and she had a B.S. degree. Why she married me I have no Idea. But thank God she divorced me. I grew up quick (i had to I got custody of the kids, GREAT LAWYER) My second wife or last one is the most understanding women. She's not as mature as I am but, that's OK. She has a B.S degree too, but can't find a use for it. Psychology major, maybe she should be sitting here giving advice. Anyway, I have never been happier. It's been 18 years!

Answer 11

I've had two so far and it changes from day to day. Most important, find someone you can be friends with. Someone that has common interest. You need to see how she acts when she gets really mad. Especially, mad at you. This is a good indication of her real personality and a dead on indicator of how your fights will go. All married couples have disagreements. Sometimes they get really,really bad depending on how a person fights. Nasty insults and physical violence simply can not be tollerated. My second wife fights dirty. She gets vicious and screems so loud it almost blinds me. All the fights went that way. I had to end that marriage mainly for that reason. I couldn't argue with her at her level. I was ALWAYS at fault.