is this a good idea?

Question

i am 14 years old and i want to be more independent but my parents wont let me.....i also want to have sum kind of kid a baby of my own to brag ....so i figured a good way was to get pregnant with my bf he agreed and he has a kid already and he is a good dad is this a good idea?

Answer 1

Not at all! Are you going to brag about how this baby lives with you, your mom and your dad? Finish school, move out and get married first.

Answer 2

NOOOO! This is not a good idea! You may think that you are ready for kids, but you are not! I watched a movie about a girl who was pregnant at 15 (Fifteen and Pregnant with Kirsten Dunst, you should watch it...) and it showed that yeah, you may think that you are ready, but once you get to the stage where everyone finds out and you have to be taken out of school, you don't want to have a kid anymore. You're parents won't think that you are more independant if you have a baby. Besides, just because you have a baby at 14 does not make you an adult, you would still have four years until you legally can become an adult. Do not try to get yourself pregnant.

Answer 3

If you call it "sum kind of a kid a baby....", you're too young to have a child. Unless you and your boyfriend are old enough to move out on your own, and support your self AND your child without running to mommy & daddy all the time for money and baby sitting help, you shouldn't have a child. It sounds like you need to grow up. Not to mention 14 years is way to young to have a child. For mental and physical reasons. If you got pregnant it wouldn't show your parents that you're an independent adult. It would show them that you did a stupid thing, and that they were right by not letting you be more independent.

Answer 4

No way dear! You are much too young to have a baby. This may put your life to risks since your body is not yet prepared to have a baby . And you may face big problems in the future. I know your boyfriend may be a good boy, but what if gives you and the baby up? How will you raise the kid on your own? how will you manage to study, and to work if you have such a heavy burden? You have a life and a future to build. And you can have babies until 45 or more, so why are you in a hurry? This is in no way a good way to become independent.

Answer 5

Are you serious?!
Getting pregnant would not show that you are ready to be independent!!! If anything you would just prove that you need to grow up before you can get any sort of independence--how about trying to maintain an after school job or good grades in school??? Demonstrate to your parents that you can handle responsibility without actually bringing another baby into this world--believe me a baby from a guy who already has a baby and is not your baby is anything but a good idea!!!

Answer 6

I'm sorry but you are really stupid. I just answered your other question you said that you want a baby so you can have someone to love. A BABY SHOULD NOT BE USED TO BRAG!!!! If you only want this kid to brag you are very inmature and your parents should ground you for a long time. Baby's are hard work that cost a lot of money. You may think that a baby is cute but they scream at all hours of the time,they pee on you, they pooped on you(baby pooped smells really bad!) Just get smarty and don't do it.

Answer 7

No, you don't even have a driver's license yet! Are you going to rely on your parents for everything- driving you to the hospital, driving you and your baby to doctors appointments, driving you to the grocery store, and you prob don't even have a job to support all of this. A baby won't show your parents how independent you are. A baby will take up all of your time- you will be waking up every 2 hrs during the night to feed him/her... and going to school I hope on top of that- who will watch your baby then?

If you want to show independence, show you have responsibility. Get good grades, then get a job when you are old enough to help pay your bills. Try to go to college if you can so you can support a family. It's tough now days, most jobs require college schooling in order to make good money.

You are young, live your life and have good times. I barely have enough time to shower sometimes now that I have a child. My baby comes first, and I make sure he is taken care of before my own needs.

Answer 8

if you want to be independent get a job....get a dog....dont have some kind of....kid...a baby of your own to brag...cause your freinds really dont want to hear oh jeez yall the baby puked all over me last night then she was up and down all night and i had to walk her up and down the stairs i never get any sleep im so tired...my babies dad is the biggest jerk he wont even change a diaper....she peed on me yesterday and she cries all the time...you are not emtionally physically mental for a..kid that you can brag on....how do you think your bf is oging ot have time with a new baby when he's already got one? you wanna go to school and have a bus take you ...pay for a babysitter..which mind you is a couple hundred buck ever 2 weeks at least...and when you get out of school have your mommy and daddy come get you so they can take you to your job (because you still cant drive yetZ) take you to some fast food job mind you that your gonig to have for the rest of your life because your never going to have time to learn anything else cause your going to hav ea baby and daycare and then your going to have to pay for bottles diapers formula and toys for a babny they need clothes a nd love and attention your 14 your not ready to dedicate the rest of your life to just a child let alone some boy! then your going to ge thome from work id say around 12ish come home do homework get up and down twith a baby and then go back to school the next morning? how is that fair to a child to never be able to see there parent? its not....its not fair for you to bring someone into this world just so you can "brag" what you need to do is find a hobby or a volunteer place so you can play with the babies like maybe at a church ....they usually have someone who can watch the babies on sunday so the parents can go to church...you should try something like that....goodluck to you ihope everything works out for you....

Answer 9

I personally don't think it's a good idea! I was 19 when I had my first child and because I did become a parent so young, financially I stumbled myself which in return prevents me from doing as much for my children as I would like to!!!
Take your time you have plenty of life to live!!! If you want some independence try volunteering or maybe start a small weekend business like babysitting!! Create a life for yourself before you create a life!!!
If you like babies so much see if you can become a candystriper (volunteer) in a hospital on the maternity ward!!! You will be so proud of yourself for helping other people!!!
When you are done with your job or volunteer shift you will be able to walk away at the end of the day...if you have a baby your job will never be done at the end of the day!!!

Good luck and Please THINK IT OVER!!!
Give your future a chance!!

Answer 10

No, no, no! Getting pregnant is the most irresponsible thing to do. There are no "bragging rights" when it comes to children. It is being proud and loving a little baby. Also, how old is your boyfriend? If he left you and decided to pay you child support it would be NOTHING! His first child will get more money than yours. Be smart if you want to be more independent. Maybe your parents will be more proud of you when you are not a pregnant teenager with a loser boyfriend.

Answer 11

NO, NOT AT ALL! You are way to young to be a mother. You don't understand the responsibility of being a mother. You shouldn't have a child so that you can then brag about it. This isn't smart. A baby would take up almost all of your time, so you wouldn't have anytime left for friends, going shopping, doing homework, or anything. You need to grow up,mature, and get married before you have a child.