Is guardianship a right thing to do for your mother if the mental hospital hasn't said she needs it yet?

Question

My mom has been in a mental hospital for several months and won't own up that it is her that has to be the one to get better. I have racked my brain and have finally petitioned for guardianship, but am getting conflicting info on whether she needs one or not. I think she does because my father won't own up to helping and I am the only one that has stuck their neck out to help her in that way.

Answer 1

I am in the process of obtaining legal guardianship of my 23-year old daughter. She is seriously mentally ill. Whether or not to get a legal guardianship was a very tough decision...we are essentailly taking away all of her rights. Neither your mother or my daughter will have the right to get a driver's license, to vote, to get married without the guardian's permission, to join the armed forces, etc.

The guardianship will allow you access to all of your mother's medical records. It will force health care professionals to talk to you about her condition. It will gain some power in deciding appropriate living situations for your mother. It does not give you the right to put her into a mental intstiution unless she actively meets criteria. (Danger to herself or others)

Obtaining the legal guardainship is very expensive. Mine is over 8K. I am staggering under the financial burden. But I hope that the payoff will be worth it.

It is extremely hard for us to care for a mentally ill loved one when the Hippa Laws are in our way every minute of the day. My Mentally Ill daughter is too paranoid, manic, and sick to sign permission sheets when she is in the mental hospital. She thinks if she signs anything, they will hurt her. She sometimes believes that signing the permission sheet will cause her to catch HIV. Naturally, she refuses to sign permission, so no one can legally talk to me about her condition. Her judgment is always horrible but it's much worse when she is in a mental health crisis that requires hospitalization.

For me, it's like being the only person in the whole world that honestly and truly cares about her...and yet.....I'm trying to take care of her with a virtual blindfold, gag, and both hands tied behind my back. Meanwhile a whole group of uneducated mental health care orderlies, who don't really care about her, have full access to her files and to her person.

You case is different than mine in that your mother is older than my daughter. My daughter is small, blonde, very cute with an adorable figure. She is very easy to take advantage of financially, emotionally, and sexually. I worry about my daughter marrying someone who is looking for a free SSI check so he can buy crack with the funds and prostitute her on the side. My daughter certainly would marry a guy like that if he convinced her that he loves her. I need the legal right to block this.

I think your mother needs your brain/reasoning skills and obtaining a legal guardianship is the only way to provide her with it. I doubt that she will care, once it's done. Just present it very matter of factly and I suspect that she'll give up arguing very quickly. Besides, they always appoint her an attorney to stand up for her rights and to fight the legal guradianship. It wasn't only your decision. It take a whole bunch a people working in agreement to accomplish this very serious curtailing of a human beings rights and priviledges.

Answer 2

let me start by saying that guardianship is totally different from medical power of attorney, etc. i worked for a mental health facility where this question was an everday concern. it really depends on what state u live in as well, as laws r different from state to state. ur mom could be in a mental health institution and still not be considered incompentent, so be sure to have evidence to support that when u do appear in court, dr's statement,ect. such as how she is a danger to herself or others and could she function to complete her daily living activities without the support of you or trained support staff in the community? also be prepared to act as ur mother if u do obtain guardianship, such as signin her name on anything she would have such as checks, treatment plans, legal agreements, etc., as in essence u will become her. i definately think that u need to have the support from her doctor on this cause the court can go against u if the doctor does not agree. u have to remember u ar petitioning the court to take her rights as a citizen away and she becomes ur full responsibility. hopefully i've provided some insight into the subject, if u need further support contact ur local NAMI association or the local library they should have listings for support services for families of those who suffer from mental illness. Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 3

Try Power of Attorney, this will give you all rights as a daughter
to give her the right treatment. Once you have Power of Attorney
then if they need any kind of information they would ask you and not your mom. You would have the say so for any medical attention she needs.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

i think you need the hospital to say it first