I am recently seperated from my husband of 12 years, It was a bad relationship so I am now truly happy. We usually went to my moms for Thanksgiving and Christmas, but it wasnt a big deal if we didnt go there. It was more of a come if you want, there were no set plans. Now I am living with my boyfriend and he is seperated too, actually I left my husband the same day he and his wife split up. I know what you are thinking, but Is wasnt planned and we were all Swingers and all of us had problems. His wife was in love with another man, and him and I were in love with each other. Ok back to the question, His mom and dad are going to his x wifes parents house for Thanksgiving and Christmas. We were invited to go also, but I just think that that is going to be so akward. I am going to feel like such an intruder, and I dont really want to go to my familys either. Its been 7 months since the split ups, and his x has been a lot cooler to me lately. Any Ideas?
2006-11-01 11:07:05 · 11 answers · asked by mysticmoons2002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hello Mystic, I understand what you are saying and i also agree. I would not go visit anyone's house for Thanksgiving and if things are better between you and the Ex then i would not start any sparks by seeing her on Thanksgiving holiday. Instead ,,,,,,,,, just let the both of you start some memories,,,,,,,, spend the day together,,,,,,,, have the both of you decide on what you want to cook and the both of you spend the holiday together. Have fun.
2006-11-01 11:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate with your situation, I to have been separated for a few months and ponder the question as to what to do with the upcoming holiday season. After reading your question and playing my own last few months of drama threw my head I came up with a solution that I think will work for me this year, and if it doesn't it still cant be any worse than this year already has for me. I am going to have my own thanksgiving and Christmas at my house and invite those I WANT, to see . If they come great, if they don't not all bad either. But, this holiday needs if nothing else, needs to be a rebuilding and a new tradition is the a good way to start. I wish you the best of luck with your new life and those in it. Be true to yourself. You are the only one you have to live with for the rest of your life.
2006-11-01 11:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all if you're not divorced yet you are actually committing adultery by living with your boyfriend, and so is he. Marriage is a legal and binding contract and until a divorce is decreed final then any living arrangements with someone is adultery, but since you were swingers I can't imagine WHY you would be married to begin with since obviously none of you actually took your vows seriously. If your marriages were business they would go belly up before the end of the first week because obviously none of you honor contracts. I suggest you stay home and eat crow.
2006-11-01 17:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If there are kids. Make your own traditional get togethers and invite whom you'd like to be there. Make several small dinner parties instead of all the ex's and new partners and ex in laws all packed into one day...personally it seems more appropriate in such cases and no awkwardness. Good luck and Peace~
2006-11-01 11:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you all are swingers there's the 1st mistake anyways....why would you feel awkward you were already sharing partners before?! What's the difference now? Have Christmas at your own house if you feel too awkward to go.
2006-11-01 11:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by littlemama 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whatever you like... Talk about a mess. Firstly you should not have been dating until you were divorced. How about you just spend the holidays by yourself, doing some thinking about your character and your life. You don't mention kids, so I hope to heck you don't have any involved in all of this.
2006-11-01 14:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just give yourself a break, send out a few Christmas cards to grandparents and whatnot, and give yourself the rest of the holidays off. I did this last year. It was great.
2006-11-01 11:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay home have your own christmas invite a few friends or your parents maybe. Its great to do it your self once in a while
2006-11-01 11:19:34 · answer #8 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were a swinger then I guess you can swing it!!
Go!
2006-11-01 11:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by Dori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just plan a getaway vacation with only you and your boyfriend if you don't wanna see either your and his family...
2006-11-01 11:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by Lucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋