My wife is VERY selfish when it comes to giving it up. Please advise.
2006-11-01 10:55:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe shes not selfish. Try her life for a day. Cook,clean, bathe, feed, play, laundry, sports activities, grocery shop.....sound fun yet?? Send your kids away for a day or two. Better yet take your wife somewhere for a day or two. See what happens then!
2006-11-01 11:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by tigger497 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a stay at home mom and have no problems with that department what so ever. If you are then maybe she is just too tired from running after kids all day, cleaning house, cooking 3 meals, making sure baths are done, and homework if any, etc. or maybe you have a wife who has a hormone problem or it could be because of your attitude about the issue. Try sweeping her off her feet. Do something romantic and never ask if she wants to have sex, that is such a turn off. Women also don't like to be rubbed on 236778645 times a day either so keep your hands off unless she acts like she wants it.
2006-11-01 19:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NOOOOOOOOO... don't find a replacement player.
But there is an issue that needs to be addressed there. In my opinion and I'm a mother of 3, work full time etc... I have only once told my man no when he wanted sex and that was becasue I just wasn't liking him very much at the time and I couldn't get over being upset in the time frame he wanted me to. Too many women these days use this as a tool and don't realize how damaging this is to a relationship.
maybe you should inform her of this how unfair it is to you that she's holding out. ALSO find out why she's holding out don't go accusing her of things being hateful and selfish, it's possible she doesn't feel loved enough by you to show you how much she loves you by "giving it up"
Ask her if she feels loved by you, tell her how much you appreciate her raising your children and how wonderful of a wife she is then SHOW her you mean it, you'd be surprised what a woman will do for you when she feels completely and unconditionally loved by her man.
2006-11-01 19:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by Heather S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I go to bed ridiculously early on the those nights like 8/pm. I go when I'm not tired so that I am more agreeable to "giving it up" as you say.
If I go to bed sleepy and tired then that is the last thing I want to do when I know I have a full agenda for the next day.
This way if a session lasts a couple of hours or so it won't be as if I am going to bed at midnight and getting up at 5/a.m. with the kids.
2006-11-01 20:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think she is being selfish. my wife is also a homemaker raising 2 children one is 17 the other 3. she's on the go from sunup to late in the evening. i know i wouldn't be able to do it as well as she does. so i just look forward to those times she "gives it up" and enjoy it.
look at what tour wife does for you at home and it will make the sex you do have more exceptional.
2006-11-02 18:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by ericlexus69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a stay at home mom. I have 2 kids, soccer practices orthodontist appts. dr. appt. cleaning, cooking and everything Else that comes to the running of this house and I ALWAYS make time for sex. I love having sex with my hubby and why would I want to deny that to myself. We have sex at lest 5 times a week. Maybe you should try something new with your wife or try to romance her. See I don't know her so I don't know what she likes. But most of all have a serious conversation with her about how this is affecting you. Maybe she just wants to know that you love her and that you do respect the work she does do. Good Luck!
2006-11-01 19:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by littlemama 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what all your wife does while she is at home, but if her day is anything like mine you need to back off and give her a break if all you do is work and that's it! Any time my husband complains I tell him we can gladly switch places.
I take care of a 2 yr old & a 9 yr old special needs child
plus my cat & dog
not to mention clean, cook, do the laundry, do the shopping and did I mention go to school full time!! Just cause we stay at home moms don't always want to give it up on demand don't mean we don't want it we are truly tired. We don't just sit at home eatting bon bon's & watching our soaps like you think. You can always tell her to stop whatever it is she is doing that makes her tired, then she will have plenty of time to screw your brains out, but the down side to that is who is going to wash your dirty draws & take care of the kids while she is "giving it up"??
2006-11-01 20:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trade jobs with your wife for a week. Then find out if YOU'RE ready to give it up so easily.
Seriously tho, she is probably worn out and exhusted by the time you get home from work. In a lot of cases, some women would rather go to work than stay home with the little darlings. It takes a lot to entertain their nonstop barrage of questions and their never ending energy level. Then, your wife probably cooks, cleans and run errands. Unfortunately for you, sex is the last on her list. Its up to you to try and make some changes for her in her schedule that will help her free up some time for you. Arrange for a babysitter for a weekend and take your wife out of town. If you cant do something like that, just be creative. Do something nice that shows her you are trying to ease up her work load a bit. Take some of the load off her shoulders and I promise she will be more than willing to give you a bit more attention in your private time!
Good luck.
2006-11-01 19:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
you will be surprised at how much more willing she will be to "giving it up" if when you come home just tell her "hon, I know you been working real hard all day trying to keep the house up, taking care of our children, and I am so proud of you, why don't you go lay down and take a nap and I will finish up for you." give her about an hour or two of uninterupted rest and when you go to bed...it'll be on! gets me every time!
2006-11-01 21:26:52 · answer #9 · answered by ABC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to marriage. Think you are the only one? NOT!
It would seem that something is put in the wedding cake that effects women this way. Doesn't bother us but really slows them down.
What it really amounts to....and this is universal....is the newness of the relationship is gone. The anticipation and uncertainty of the wedding keeps them guessing. But once married she goes back to a normal life and there are other priorities.
Some say that to avoid this we must always keep them guessing. Being unpredictable does make a difference.
It is all about attraction and attraction is not a choice. We have it or we don't and like I said the wedding cake seems to cause women to loose it.
2006-11-01 19:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋