I posted this in the LGBT section so that people won't post crap here.
I'm 17 and my girlfriend of a year just broke up with me. She said she wasn't attracted to me anymore and that she liked this ugly girl better.
I just want to die. I lie in my room, but every object in my room reminds me of her. I can't shake the feeling at all. Last night, I had to sleep with my parents, and I couldn't sleep until they gave me some pills.
I don't know what to do or what to think right now.
2006-11-01 10:17:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I just don't want to wait to feel better. Whenever someone breaks up with me, it takes a year for me to get over it. A year of being miserable, of crying everywhere. I don't want to go through it.
2006-11-01 10:27:51 · update #1
I think you need to just eat some cookie dough ice cream and have a good cry.
Things will look better in the morning.
2006-11-01 10:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
It's your ex's loss. If she likes the "ugly" girl better, let her. She will probably break her heart also. No point on bashing the other girl. It won't help much in the healiing process.
Great advice and link from yetanothergwm!
Time is the healer. We all go through that situation a few times in our lives. You should get rid of the things that remind you of her or hide them for a while. The quicker you get over her, the quicker you can go out and find somebody more worthy of your love.
Don't take the pills. Now is the time to hang out with friends or family. Even if you don't talk directly about your heartbreak, being in the company of loved ones helps the healing process.
Good Luck. You will find someone better who appreciates you and loves you for you.
2006-11-01 18:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by gc27858 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cry as much as you need to and find a good friend who will listen. Talking helps. Try to keep busy doing whatever you need to to keep your mind busy. For me it's going out in the yard and planting, pulling weeds, ect. When I do that I didn't think. I lost my gf in May, so I know what you are going through. It hurts as much now as it did then. But from experience I can tell you it does get better, as time passes. I thnk that you might be in shock right now. That's why you feel like you do and that's normal.
2006-11-01 22:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that hun, but everyone get's their heart broken at least once in their life. It will take a lot of time to be able to go through your day, your week, your month without thinking of her.. beleive me, I've been there and been through plenty of break ups.
It seems like it's going to be impossible to get through a night without a dream of her, and you can't imagine finding someone else, someone new to take her place and to bring back smiles.. but just trust me. Im 21 and after my last break up I thought that I wouldnt ever be able to breathe again, but I did. I kept my head held as high as I could, and now... Ive found the woman that Im actually going to marry in July.
Keep your head up, things will get a lot better...
2006-11-01 18:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by llsoinlovell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately a break up of this type is one of the hardest to get over. The old cliche that time heals all wounds is of little help, Just make yourself more active and interact with your friends and loved ones and before you know it, someone else will come into your life and remove all of the memories of the previous person.
2006-11-01 18:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up is always hard to do. Don't bite back by talking bad about someone's physical beauty... it will make you hate yourself even worse.
Have some Ben & Jerry's ice cream, or eat a cake, have a good cry and things will get better with time.
Mike Hardcastle, has some great advice at:
http://teenadvice.about.com/cs/breakingup/a/breakuphelper.htm
Your heart will mend, and you will find love again, and better!
The best of luck!
2006-11-01 18:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by yetanothergwm 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
awhh your just gettin your ears wet... I have good news and bad news... This will not be the last time you will feel this way. You determine whether that’s good or bad.. In my experience I have learned that each relationship I have learned something from. I was sad for a long as I decided I was going to be sad for. I have control over my feelings and I would give myself a date to be over it, morn and get on... When you become better at the relationship picking, you will start picking partners that are people that you like with quality you want...... like loyalty, integrity. As for a girl who was with you saying she is not attracted to you anymore, so she can run off with miss ugly. What ever... You want to be sad over that for how long.?.. Did she look sexy to you when that was rolling off her lips? Biotch!!!!! She sounds like someone who needs to be with the new ugly girl she is with... She is a coward and runs from relationship to relationship... It never had anything to do with you, she just was and as$ hole.
2006-11-01 18:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by mylife 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Aww, you poor thing.
If there are any objects that particularly remind you of her, get rid of them.
I'm feeling shitty too (Not for exactly the same reasons, but meh).
If you have any particularly good friends, go out with them to take your mind off her.
2006-11-01 18:27:03 · answer #8 · answered by swelwynemma 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i broke up with mine a month ago. although i ended it with her it was incredibly hard. i say find support through friends and family, clean up your spaces (make them yours again.) i found that i had to stop listening to all my music cos it reminded me, but one day i said -hey, i'm reclaiming this, being single is good and now i can be me for a while - i had a party and played all my music and danced and it was a general let-go and cleanse. i think that break ups are always really really hard - but all you can do is find ways to be kind to yourself. do things you love (i find ice cream and cigarettes are helpful (lol)) good luck honey, take care!
2006-11-01 18:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by trudie 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You are lovesick.
In time,you should be able to move on.
it took me a couple of years once with an old
romance to get over it.
P.S. Try to get out of your room also,take a walk or something.
2006-11-01 18:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by moebiusfox 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋