Ok, so i'm going out with this guy, right. The thing is, he has this other friend, "Jane", and she's always telling him that I treat him bad, and that he deserves someone better. Someone that doesn't make him change for them, and someone that cares about him. She doesn't even know me, and yet she says that i'm suck up and mean and who knows what else.
The worst part of it is, he eats up everything she says and then starts to believe it himself.
Everyone who knows me thinks I can do way better. Way, way, better. But they care enough about me to let me be happy with him. They don't go and meddle in my business. They know how much i really care about him, and that i would do anything for him. Then there's Jane that 'advices' him to dump me, just to see that i wouldn't even care. No, wait. Here comes the good part: he actually said that I WOULDN'T give a sh it if that happened......yeah, I know. i'm sick and tired of this. Should i just end it, or try for the 100 time?
2006-11-01 10:13:45 · 16 answers · asked by Yay! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Do yourself a favor and end it. This man doesn't love you. He doesn't even like you. You're in the way of him and this Jane person and he has it in for you. She's not holding a gun on him and making him believe what she says. It's like your friends say, "you can do way way better than him". Your doing anything for him isn't helping matters any. It's not going to make him love you or appreciate you. It's only giving him a chance to use you and mistreat you even more. He needs what you can do for him but, Jane is who he wants to be with and he resents you for that. His actions shows this. You can try a 1000 times but you can't make someone love you and want to be with you. If you don't want to be used, mistreated, and lyed on by Jane then, you'll have to get rid of him.
2006-11-01 14:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by merry59 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HUH, yeah, I think I would end it because if he really gave a ****, why would he let someone else, a girl non-the-less, interfere with his personal relationship with you. However, end it on a friendly basis. If you care about him, tell him you care about him but this isn't what you are looking for in a relationship. Don't sell yourself short. And the truth is that life is so fast and so short that nobody can really afford to take the time to stress over this kind of stuff. Kinda sounds like Jane has herself a little crush??? And the truth is, he may have one on her too if he takes everything she says to heart. But don't stress about it. be big and let him go and get back to you.
2006-11-01 10:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by wizardburg28 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a crazy sitution. K first off, it sounds like this "jane" wants you man for herself. Secondly, if you guys really want it to work, you have to not listen to what others have to say in the situation. it has nothing to do w/ them, its you to who are trying to be together not everyone else. Finally, i wouldnt quit on the relationship if it is something you really want. you should have a sit down w/ him and have a really deep talk. just tell him how it is getting hard 4 to keep trying and being the only one trying in the relationship. If he continues to listen to what other miserable, jealous people have to say(concerning a situation they have no idea about) even after you two have a talk, than i would give up. you can only be drug down so far. Hope things work out for you.
2006-11-01 10:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK. I got your answer on the way to turn the computer off.
Sometimes I become so tired of "answers" but Thank You for your point.
Try what I did. Get angry on yourself - not angry on weakness of people behavior. Try to be in their shoes and understand why are they like they are or act. If you can see the reasons why, is easy to give up them and forgive or forget about them. On this way I solved a lot of problems to think over and over again why they are so bad or just not match my personality. I find out I have a problem not them and I don't want have the problem any more.
I'm so easy to give up any connection from the beginning if I see is to nowhere or don't have any future. Stop torture yourself - is my motto.
Bye.
Let me know what you are thinking about and good luck.
2006-11-04 09:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Toto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he cared about u he would care what other people say about u. he would care about u. .there must be other reasons behind why she is saying these things.
if u really care make it work and prove her wrong. but your happiness is the most important thing. get out if thats gonna make u happier in the long run..
look long term not now.. and think how much more can u take of this.. what happens when another female does the same and it starts all over again.
2006-11-01 10:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by justincase119 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he's really giving you trouble and you're to the point that you really can't handle it, forget it...dump himl. if you talk to him and let him know how you feel...and tell him that its either you or jane let him decide and take it from there. really talk to him though andif it still bugs u...dump him bacause he's clearly not worth you time. talk to him and see what happens. but in the end i would just end it. sry
2006-11-01 11:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by madhuridixit 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, bail. It ain't worth the drama, darlin'. If he can't see you for who you are by now, he either doesn't want to or just enjoys being around the meddling, lieing, spiteful chick. He's gonna be one of those guys who likes to be lead around by the nose by witchy women...they're dull-witted and not worth the effort, trust me.
2006-11-01 10:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
THAT "Jane " thing is unbelievable
what benefit is she gaining from ruining her friends relationship with you!! she must want him for her self!
honey if you really care for that guy sit down with him and discuss your situation... understand his point of view and if he wants you he must give some compromises!
2006-11-01 10:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by sweet cherry78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you utilising an same apple id? P.s:attempt doing what i informed u on the ipad if it retains doing that then do th same component to the iPhone. in case you do then visit settings>itunes and appstores,then turn apps off and that would want to fix it. reason of the priority:that once that apps component became on it became syncing the apps over the apple id
2016-12-05 10:49:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it. If you have to take all the time it took to explain all this in a question it's a sign of insanity.
2006-11-01 10:15:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋