Has A Friend Ever Stolen From You??& If So Did You Forgive Them???

Question

The other day at work I had my phone stolen which I'd bought only 2 days before & the fact is that some1 who I work with stole it.I only showed it to 1 person and so its obviously a huge coinsidence that it went missing on the first day I brought it in to work and only showed it one person.However the person who I showed it to is the person there who Iv'e had the most social contact with and I even though I don't him very well hes seems like a genuine and sincere kind of person so I don't want to believe its him but condsidering he was the only person who I showed it to and no-one else knew I had a new phone I somehow think that it was him. Also he said the following day to me 'I bet your parents think it was me because I'm the only1 who you showed it to'-which sounded a bit strane like he was trying to cover himself.I somehow am sure that it was him and I thought about asking him whether he did steal it.But if I find out whether is was him should I forgive him or not trust him again??

Has this kind of thing ever happened to anyone else and if so did you forgive that person?? It's so hard to know what to do because I'm pretty sure it was him and I did see him as a kind of friend, what do you think???

Answer 1

My friend did once, when we were in secondary school, and again stole from another friend.

We never forgave her, and she lost some close friends because of it... At the time we didn't stop to think about how distructive her childhood was, or how it may of affected her.
Over ten years on (recently) i bumped into her in a local boozer, and the first thing she did was apologise for that incident over 10 years ago, i could tell that it had been playing on her mind for all these years, she most def realised what she did was wrong, and has changed.
Infact we have been for a drink since, and i feel guilty that i didn't help her more.
It is definitely NOT a case of once a thief always a thief.

However, you're in a different situation, because once you're in a work place- surely you're old enough to know better? I would confront him outright, after all you're all adults.
I would just be more careful in future.

Answer 2

Forgiving someone is easy. Forgetting takes a long, long time.
If he did steal it, he obviously has a problem and needs to get help. He will end up taking something, being arrested and prosecuted and probably spend jail time. You might tell him that you know he took it and you would like to have it back and nothing else will be said. If he is a good person, he will confess and return your phone. If not, you do not need this person as a friend. If he did it once, he will do it again and next time if might be something more than a phone, like your purse, credit cards, money, etc. Friends don't steal from friends! Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Take this one thing at a time here Honey. First of all you don't know or have any evidence that he stole your phone, you didn't see him, you didn't see him with it.
Call your number, see who answers it, make sure you didn't leave it somewhere. Some phones now have chips in them and the phone company can trace them, if it's feasible, do it.

If in fact he stole your phone and he has no reason other then stealing it, I wouldn't trust him again, what would he do again to you?
You can tell him you forgive him and then get rid of him, he's a loser.

Answer 4

I don't know him but can you really be certain no-one else saw or heard you? Were the two of you totally alone in the room? Are you certain he didn't say anything about it to anyone else afterwards? Could anyone else have heard its posh new polyphonic ringtones?

If it was him, I am not sure I could trust him again if I were you. I had a "friend" who accepted my hospitality, living rent-free in my home for 6 months. She lied to me and about me to others, I found things in my home that should not have been there, which I later realised she had filched from local shops - e.g. little coloured napkins from displays in department stores - and after she left (telling her other friends I had thrown her out, whilst telling me they had simply suggested she move in with them) I found money and belongings were nowhere to be found. Some "good Catholic" she was!

I wouldn't say I could never forgive her, but I could never allow her back into my life, although she proceeded to tell what seemed like half the town that she "wanted to be my friend" - in truth she had no clue what friendship was about and I could never get over what she'd done. Really it was her lying that I found hardest to accept, more than the stealing. I never saw her or spoke to her again.

Answer 5

If you can remember the number,wait until you are at work next and call the number,just by chance,the idiot who stole your phone may be so dense,that they will not have changed the sim card,and if this person goes to answer the phone,you have your culprit,secondly,what you can do is contact your phones network or manufacturer,and if you give them the phone serial and i.d number,they can put a barr on all calls outgoing/incoming to that phone,regardless of sim cards,so whoever stole it cannot use it either,after all,you may not get your phone back,but at the same time,nobody else will get to use it either,good luck!

Answer 6

Did you report this? Your superiors need to know there is a thief in the company. You don't know for sure it was him, as anyone could have poked into your belongings and spotted your phone.
If you have your suspicions, then just be wary of him. If he did take it, report him to your superiors immediately. It is bad enough to steal off the company, but off fellow staff members is despicable.
Who wants to work along side a thief? The worse kind are the ones who are good at getting you to like them.

Answer 7

I'm sorry to say but no...Never could forgive or forget when a friend stoled from me.I look at it as once a thief always a thief. They have no standards and are not about anything. Find a new friend before she does something worse.Good luck

Answer 8

YES, THIS KIND OF THING HAS HAPPENNED TO ME

when i was in school, my notes got stolen just before the exams. And i had real tough time, found other ways to study so that ic ould pass them. i was puzzled who could do the , as i had no enimity with anybody, nor could i have misplaced it.

In higher classes i became good friends with one guy, and by the time we left school he was my best friend. One day he confessed it to me, that it was he who had stolen the notes coz i had called him some bad names that day.

Well i just laughed at it, and was satisfied that at least a mystery was solved.
and he is a good caring friend to this day

Answer 9

it usually depends on what and why, My friends never have stolen anything worth much, a lighter, a pen or maybe even a toy (when I was a kid) but it came down to why, if your friend stole a phone there is a problem that maybe you can't forgive.

Answer 10

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