Okay, a friend of mine's parent just died and she sent me a letter that basically told me that certain things that I had done to her really did hurt her more than she let on. She had a crush on a guy in 8th grade and I ended up in a turbulent relationship with him about 4 years later, and I told her about it--in detail. In this letter, she told me basically that she didn't really see us as friends and I should've thought of her before I jumped into the relationship with this guy. But, she also said that she wanted to start over with a clean slate. Should I forgive her?
2006-11-01 09:42:28 · 13 answers · asked by Nicky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
About 3 months ago, I got this letter from my friend. We've been friends since we were 5 (we're 21 now) and she wasn't the most popular girl in school. Well, I was part of the in crowd and though I kinda hung with her behind the scenes, I did some things as a joke. Well, she said that it hurt her that I did that. There was also this guy we both knew. She had a crush on him, but he made fun of her and I ended up with him 4 years later. I told her about it, and I also told her that I was thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend. In this letter, she basically cursed me out about one of my boyfriends in 8th grade, who was her other best friend, and the stuff I just talked about. She also said that I treated her like an advice column, not as a friend. But, she wanted to start over with a clean slate. What would you do?
2006-11-01 10:07:13 · update #1
It should be her forgiving her and saying sorry for what you all did to her she is right you should have thought of her first and that was probly a hard thing for her to tell you I mean I would have been crying while writing the letter to you so it must have been hard for her too but I think that you both starting over with a clean slate would be the best for your friendship and if you really believe that you are the one that should foregive her then your wrong but you should if you really really believe that
2006-11-01 09:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by tt_2011_86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it really depends on you. If you don't forgive her and u stop being friends will you miss her? I personally don't think I would forgive her but like I said it depends on you. Did you know ur friend had a crush on this guy? because in all fairness it was four yrs later I mean come on four yrs is quite a long time. Anyway all the best and Good Luck.
2006-11-01 09:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's acting like a child. She had a CRUSH on this guy. They weren't together. If I were you, I wouldn't even bother with her and don't be close "friends" with her. You did nothing wrong. She's only acting this way because of the death of her parent. If you want to, you can forgive her for being an idiot, but don't act like you're sorry for anything because you did nothing wrong.
2006-11-01 09:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think with the death of this person's parent, they are trying to resolve all things that bother them in their relationships, 'just in case'. It would be awful to die without expressing your true feelings to friends and family. Maybe she doesn't want to resent you for this anymore, or have bad feelings toward you. I think you should agree to forgive and forget and move on with your friendship. Life is too short, and friends are waaaay to hard to come by, to let something as little as that end it all. I think that's what she's realized: Life is just too short.
2006-11-01 09:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by benjis.girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would forgive her but she also needs to realize that you cannot rewrite the past.
Maybe since the death of her parents she is feeling that she has to express herself to those who are still living so she never regrets speaking up or expressing herself.
2006-11-01 09:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jen G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure. Real friends forgive each other for things much worse than you mentioned. If she means something to you, you will feel better if you forgave her. God Bless You.
2006-11-01 09:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive and try hard to forget. remember the reasons that made you friends in the first place, and do alot of apologizing.
2006-11-01 09:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by nameisie90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you wants to be friends with such a shallow person who thinks about such drivel when her parent just died.
2006-11-01 09:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by Bella Donna 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should forgive her, I'm sure you'd want her to forgive you if it were the other way around.
2006-11-01 09:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone deserves a second chance especialy if they want to try again
2006-11-01 09:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋