I just want one true friend ....?

Question

Hi I am 31yrs Old female ,married too ,,I want one good friend ..,,to share the beauty of friendship ...And dont mix friendship into any other relation ..I am honest , senstive and very caring person ,,I have given a lot in my life sply to friends thinking tht they are true to me bt in the end i am alone ..No one was there when i was in need of a friend ,,,,Why do friends behave like this ...One time they make u feel u are the world to them and in just next moment they make u feel u are nothing for them ...Why cant they also be honest in friendship ....

Answer 1

Dear Lady,
People today, in all this new world technology and thinking, have lost sight of what a true friendship is. So, I thought I would help out a little and explain what real, true friends are.

1. Friends don't have to be exactly the same. Friends have similarities but they also have their differences. They key to opening up the world of friendship is not only to expand on similarities but to accept each other's faults. Because you can't ever judge your friend.

2. Friends have to argue! No one likes to but it is necessary to be healthy. Cause if you agree on everything, either the government has expanded cloning subjects or someone isn't being true and is trying a little too hard.

3. You have to be comfortable together or else you just aren't going to click. If you feel edgy around the person then something isn't quite right.

4. Friends love unconditionally. They have there little angry moments but what's done is done and all is forgive and forget. Why let something that happened in the past ruin what happiness you could have in the future?

5. Believe in love at first sight because there is the equivalent in friendship. Some people think that you have to know someone really well to become good friends. Trust me, it's not true. If the first time you really spend time together you talk for 25 hours straight until 4:30 in the morning about some topic you thought no one else in the world understood, hun, that's real love at first sight.

These are only a few of the basics. Just remember, friends are forever. But only if you keep it that way. Don't distance your buds, love them instead. And when they drive you nuts, love them that much more for being just a little bit different and maybe just a little bit quirky!

TRUE FRIENDSHIP

Friendship is something that grows through the years
Withstanding feelings of anger, joy and tears
It is something you cannot live without
A friend you can turn to when in doubt
They should listen carefully and not speak a word
For you would do the same when they want to be heard
A person you can confide in, learn from and trust
This is a friend and everyone must
Be able to have someone just like this
Not a boyfriend to hug, cuddle and kiss
But a person so special, faithful and true
The only one I can think of is a person like you
Our friendship is strong, healthy and great
Through the years I see its wonderful fate
A fate of laughs, greatness and fun
We have only one life to live and this is the one
The past- full of memories that runs through my head
The bad ones never talked about or said
Every moment of life should glisten with fresh morning dew
This reminds me of the greatest friendship one ever knew.

Good Luck, may u find some good friends>r

Answer 2

you are hurt because you expect something from the other,in whatever form,you were immature & childish till you were 20. say upto 27 there were trials and errors. then now upto 31 you have become intolerant.but why don't you understand that you cannot have goody goody always. remember,once a person learns to accept one's defeat 50% of life's battle is won.here let me elobrate that at some cases though you are right yet you have to accept defeat.life is something very very vast & complex.in short,try & understand the composition of our body,wherein the function of one part is corelated with another and suppose each part could work or act on its own than you can imagine the outcome. the real friend you seek maybe next to you or at the other end of the world,but to choose,you are the best judge

Answer 3

I am 52 & married. Studied and worked
with the best of the companies since very
young age.

To me, friendship mens:

1. To trust a person, so that you are
able to share your thoughts on any subject.

2. To share feelings.

3. Never ever think of deceiving the other.

4. True to be honest.

5. Never hide from the friend.

6. Give and get mental and moral
support.

7.Never guide the friend with bogus
suggestions.

8. Never criticise a friend in a harsh
manner, you may hurt the sentiments
severely.

9. It may take several days to make
the friend understand that he may
have been wrong.

10. Be faithful to the friend for ever,
even if he/she has hurt inadvertantly.

11. The emotion of the friend is the most
important thing for you.

12. Share jokes with her often.

13. Never look for monetory gains and
money to be considered as the least
important in friendship.

14. A good friend is a good guide,
philosopher, and mentor of the other.

15. A good friend can solve complex
problems in the family, with regard
to In Laws, Husband, Wife, Children,
Parents etc.

16. SINCERITY IS THE UTMOST FOR A GOOD
FRIENDSHIP. I LOST A BEST FRIEND, WHEN
HE COMMITTED SUICIDE IN 1994, BECAUSE
OF FAILURE IN MARRIAGE. INSPITE OF MY
SINCERE EFFORTS TO SAVE THE MARRIGE
AND BY VISITING HIS IN LAWS HOUSE FOR
A COMPROMISE IN KOLKATA, I FAILED TO
SAVE HIS LIFE. I MISS HIM A LOT, EVEN NOW.
WE HAD NO MONETORY RELATIONSHIP, BUT
EMOTIONALLY, WE SHARED EVERYTHING.

If you wish, we can be good friends. I live in Agra.
We can be pen friends to beginwith.
With best wishes to KONI1975.

Answer 4

I've been there and I can't explain it either. When my wife died I found myself treated like a leper. Most of my "friends" avoided me at the time I needed their friendship the most. To this day I have not heard from all but a very few. I don't understand because I was always there for them. I've since made new friends but I can't help but doubt if they would abandon me in a time of need also.

Answer 5

I think u need to have an IM. This makes it easy to communicate instantly.
Incidentally I am also in need of a good chat friend to exchange a whole lot of views on various topics of common interest besides of-course some light-hearted banter,

Answer 6

True Lover

Answer 7

Dear Koni, Hello!
I am 35 year married male with 3 kids .I m a pathologist by profession.I wont say that i shall be your best friend by my own mouth.You try it urself and find out if i m that friend you are longing to have one.For me a friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.My email id is [e-mail] can have my cell no. too if u so desire.
Yours
Ravinder

Answer 8

omg..tell me about it...maybe we are the same...see when i care for a friend, i care too much and i just give it all..i open myself like a book with transparent pages with all the writings floating for my friend to see but there are times that there are little misunderstanding that arises and it just become like the biggest obstacle ever...i can be your friend.. i have lots of friends around me and some great friends online...and yeah when i have friends..i give them most of my time..but yeah sometimes friendships ends and it hurts but u have to understand their reasons....

Answer 9

Even the most reliable and loveable legs will not bear you for ever. Trust love and be friend with your "blood relations". They will help you one day

Answer 10

You are most Welcome to be my true & honest friend.

I am too aware about the cheaters in current age, but All the fingers are not equal, You may try a last chance.

I assure, you will not be DISAPPOINTED.