My friend is trying to set me up with my other friend who id just met like 2 months ago. I really do like him, but choose not to annoy him with it since he is already surrounded by girls(and he hates the attention) and because he does have a girlfriend. I talk with him a lot and stuff because i actually get along with him better then my best friend of 4 years. How should i stop her? Her first step is was "love" letter that i supposedly wrote. he knew instantly that it wasnt me because, he knows that i wouldnt do something like that.
HOw can i get her to stop this before i end up getting hurt?
2006-11-01 09:16:18 · 16 answers · asked by ╣♥╠ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I should have also put that I choose no to impose myself on him becase he does have a girlfriend. But IF they break up then thats another story. Buts hes still a really good friend
2006-11-01 09:27:45 · update #1
Well, if you are absolutely sure of what she is trying to do, the next time he comes up, tell her that since he is such a cool guy that you appreciate her trying to help you out, but that you would like any further relationship with him to develop on its own without outside help and that you are perfectly happy being friends with him.
A possible wild theory: She realizes you are pulling away from her as "best" friend and as your best friend she is trying to hook you two up to accomplish two things: 1. She will have done something awesome for you - upping her best points - and 2. as boyfriends are hard to be "best" friends (at least in her eyes) she is in a sense eliminating the competition. Like I said, wild theory.
2006-11-01 09:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by volleyjacket 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you should confront your friend. If she doesnt listen then she isnt really a good friend now is she? and if this doesnt work and you want to continue to be her friend, have this guy go with you a second time. And your choice to not be like the other girls and hang all over him is very smart. Guys can get annoyed by this over time. And since he knows your handwriting, he can tell if the note was written by you or your friend. You wont get hurt from this because you have limited yourself from him and you two are friends. Dont worry
2006-11-01 21:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you were able to fairly well explain the situation HERE, so, what is preventing you from doing the same thing with HER? Speak up, have some backbone, and TELL HER TO STOP. If she doesn't respect you enough to honor your wishes, then, there really isn't much of a "friendship" there in the first place.
The guy in question will think a lot more of you if you handle this situation in a mature and assertive manner, and keep him out of it.
2006-11-01 17:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by happy heathen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her shes invading your love life...tell her to leave it alone and tell him the truth...besides its not kosher to go after someone whos already with someone dont you think?...theres limits between friendships and relationships..she should know where you stand and if you are not telling her to back off then you deserve to get hurt.. speak up ...she crossed her boundaries ...
at times i ask my friends for help and they help but they know what is not right to do ...everyone has their certain things that tick them off and she should know whats right for you if shes your friend....find another guy...dont involve yourself with this one be a good friend to him hes taken thats the bottom line as for your friend tell her to stop doing it or you will tell him everything ..
2006-11-01 17:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest telling the guy your friend is trying that kind of stuff and you dont know why so if she does keep trying to hook you 2 up or w/e he'll know its just her and he wont be annoyed with you... or you could become his gf once his leaves lol.. or both
2006-11-01 17:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by Osita 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight out, I don't want you to set me up with him. If she does it anyway then maybe you need a new friend who is more sensitive to people's feelings.
2006-11-01 17:18:12 · answer #6 · answered by odandme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if she doesn't stop you are going to send a anonymous letter around, stating that she is gay or anything that you know she is not.
2006-11-01 17:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her nicely about what you think. Say i dont really want bother him, he doesn't like the attention and i dont want to seem like those girls that ares constantly all over him for his attention.
2006-11-01 17:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by wutsupdog345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to him and say that your friend is being strange, and anything that has anything to do with that kind of idea was not forwarded by you...
thus, your friend is only doing alot of running for nothing and will eventually tire
2006-11-01 17:19:12 · answer #9 · answered by bl00dsuckr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your AND the guy should tell her to cut it out.
tell her if she doesnt stop then she is not your friend
2006-11-01 17:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by brainiac 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋