abusive parents...what to do?

Question

my parents were married for 17 years. All those years my mom cheated on my dad with many different men and women. Finally about 9 years ago my parents divorced my mom leaving my dad for a women. My mom abused me for all of my childhood, and once my parents divorce and she got with her girlfriend, her gf did it even worse to me. She broke my jaw with bat and a whole bunch of other things. That stuff never really mattered to me because i wanted to protect my sisters. But now i have moved out with my dad, and i can no longer protect them. Chris {gf} never touched my sisters when i was there, but im scared since im not, she will. My sisters come over all the time with bruises and such but i cant do anything because are scared to talk. should i confront her? but i dont want to get my sisters in more trouble. What should i do? Btw my mom and her gf are pathological liers.

been there done that with the police. If my sisters wont say it happens the only thing the police and csd can do is go and check out the house, which my mom and chris would be on their best behavior. My dad is at his wits end as am i. im only 17 and my sisters are 12 and 13. I havent been able to talk to them at all, because my mom feels i am a bad influence. Im leaving for college in august but im debating on whether of not to go to take care of my sisters. Should i take matters into my own hands. police and csd wont work.

ps...chris is a principal at a elementary school and my mom works to a summer camp.

Answer 1

You need to tell your dad all of what you've written here and then your mom and her gf need to be investigated by child welfare. You're a child and shouldn't have to take the responsibility of protecting your sisters -- that's your dad's job but he can't do what is right if he doesn't know what is going on.

ADDITIONAL THOUGHTS:

Why have criminal charges not been brought against those who perpetrated abuse against you?

If you have already reported this to the police and child welfare and your sister's deny that anything is happening, then there is very little you can do. At some point your sisters may get fed up with the abuse and report it themselves. All you can do is let them know that should they need you and Dad in the future, that you'll be there for them. But no, I don't think you should stay home from college to protect them especially if they don't want your protection.

Answer 2

First of all, does your dad know about this? You should tell him and let him take care of it. Anyone that was abusing my children would have to kill me to stop me from getting them away from that situation. You need to speak up and do it now! If your dad knows and is not doing anything about it, you need to call the child protective services and tell them everything you know. What happened to you, why you wanted to live with your dad and that you are scared to death that the bruises on your sisters are from them as well. In a case like this, silence can kill...Do it now!

Answer 3

Wow.

It's called the police. Call them NOW. This should have been done ages ago. They can lie all they want - police see domestic violence ALL THE TIME and they know bruises when they see them.

There is probably a medical history of your broken jaw, that can be used as evidence in court as well. Call the cops. Throw her **** in jail, and let your dad have custody.

Answer 4

I still say Cll the police and make a report. you don;t need proof to do that. This way if your sisters do ever decide to complain, there is something on record. even better, if you can convince them to move out, go to your fathers lawyer and have him file a motion with a judge...... get them out of there

Answer 5

IMMEDIATELY GO TO POLICE even if your sisters wont speak up you can use your own experience and it will put the police on the radar of your sisters protential danger - you cannot leave them to this. I am so sorry your life was like that

Answer 6

Get your dad involved if he is a real man he will take care of it, you should also call child services you know for a fact that there is a huge chance of abuse going on because of what was done to you - YOU NEED to get them out of there!!! Im praying for you and your dad I hope everything works out GOD BLESS!!!

Answer 7

I understand and can relate. Let your father call Family Services and report what it's going on. Your sisters are afraid to talk, just like you did, They are helpless and they STILL need your protection. Call before it's to late.

Answer 8

take your sister in your car and say that you're getting her ice-cream or something. Then, drive to the cops. Show them her bruises as proof and tell them that they will lie AND if they know that ur sis. told, that she will get beaten up even more.

Hope everything works for you and ur sis.

Answer 9

first. alert authorities behind their backs.
second. get a restraining order against them with your sisters consent and have it delivered to them when the kids arent around.
third. soon as a policereport is filed, and there is a restraining order, it will show you have tried to fix it .... then you can press deep child abuse charges and if you know what way to push it, you can get them in deep trouble (ie. jailtime or thick restraining order)

Answer 10

Call child services. if they did that to me, dude I would get so mad. i would yell and scream so loud that their ears would burst. I am sorry, just hearing adults abusing children makes me mad. Call child services asap. (check the phone book) Dont not comfornt her! that might make things worse and it may make it too late to get help. Hope this helps. God Bless.