of cheating on my husband? i've never acted on any of these thoughts, well, since i've been married. i have cheated on boyfriends in the past. but, seriously. why can't i quit plotting, or whatever?
2006-11-01 09:06:38 · 24 answers · asked by practicalwizard 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
2 possibilities occur to me. One, is that you've led a wild life at some point and find it difficult to change and be with just one person. It can be hard to adjust to the fact that being with one person is not always going to be endlessly exciting. Two, is that perhaps you are really missing something in the relationship, you're not getting something you really need.
I think it's normal to have some fantasies. After all, just because you get married it doesn't mean you stop finding other people attractive. Life is hard.
2006-11-01 09:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the grass is greener on the other side, it's time to water your own grass. Heard that on Oprah, ask yourself do you love him enough not to cheat? You made a vow to your husband. Honor yourself and him by keeping it. If there are problems, talk to him and work on them. So many people divorce over the lack of communication and selfishness. Don't be one of them. Get away for the weekend. Rekindle what you once had.
2006-11-01 09:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people marry to soon and for all the wrong reasons. Could this be the case? If not perhaps you are bored, meaning sometimes married people become to comfortable and no longer work or provide the love and nurturing that keeps the marriage hot and excited. Talk to your husband, maybe he is unaware of his lacking. And make sure you don't act upon your thoughts.
2006-11-01 09:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by Magica! Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remain faithful to your husband, you need to ask yourself what does my husband do or not do for me to keep having these thought about cheating. Why did you get married in the first place if your thinking or having thought about cheating, leave past in the past, maybe your shouldn't have got married in the first place. Stay faithful & honest to husband
2006-11-01 09:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by mssassy0104 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of trying to quit plotting, why not do some role playing. Make arrangements to have your husband meet you at some bar, you could dress your sluttiest and let your husband sit back and watch as others try to pick you up, then at the end of the evening he could try his luck picking you up, maybe if he does it well you will let him ;-)
Have fun and don't worry about your thoughts, some of us have them all the time but do not act on them. Now go play.
2006-11-01 09:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing I've found is to admit these thoughts when you have them. Tell your husband that you haven't cheated on him, but it occured to you the other day that you could if.... and tell him the scenario. Don't name names, just scenarios. Admitting it will get it out of your mind, and then he'll tell you how hurt he is that you even think about it, and that will help keep it from comming back.
2006-11-01 09:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly work out why you are having these feelings - is it because you are bored, lonely, not in love with your husband anymore or don't love yourself, wanting the thrill or because you are never truly happy with a partner, etc. then look at the consequences of cheating (objectively as you can) both the positive and the negative and work out if it is what you really want or a fantasy. lastly work out if you could do this to your husband a man who you vowed to love and respect forever, not until you got restless. good luck with your decision because as they say its our choices in life that define who we are.
2006-11-01 09:21:00 · answer #7 · answered by burn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's temptation! I actual have faced this same scenerio, I tell you whatever thoughts that I had looking at another and contimplated I turned them around and used them with my husband. I also keep reminding myself everyday of all the good reasons we are together, and most importantly I wouldn't want to cause him any pain and I wouldn't like it if he did it to me. Be strong!!
2006-11-01 09:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by livlovelaugh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to turn the plot around to your husband and do something wild with him or to him. Make him a horn dog and have fun.
2006-11-01 11:51:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am the same way. But everytime I got the chance, I freak out... I can't do it. So, I enjoy my mental affairs and my imaginary encounters. I know I don't want my marriage to go down like that.
2006-11-01 12:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by sick of him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋