opinions, and advice that you learned the hard way.
Is there anything that you wish someone had told you or warned you about in life that you now understand better and want to share?
This is a chance to spill your guts and give the best advice you have to offer!
2006-11-01 08:55:11 · 10 answers · asked by Myra 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I wish I'd known about birth control before I had four children. I know this sounds dumb, but nobody told me it was even possible, so I didn't even know to ask. (This was back in the fifties.) My mother having seven children didn't help. I just thought some women were unlucky. It wasn't until after my fourth was born that a doctor asked me if I would like to go on birth-control pills, which had just come out then.
I guess my advice would be: don't be afraid to ask about things you don't understand. Even if people laugh at you, it's better than remaining ignorant and suffering the consequences. And very few people will laugh, just the ignorant ones.
2006-11-01 09:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by The Gadfly 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only one you can effectively change is yourself.
A lot of couples' and individual psychotherapy is wasted because people go into it thinking they will convince the therapist that if only the partner would change, all could live happily ever after!
If you love someone, convey it to the person in words and actions; if you merely hope they are picking up on signals or hints or anything indirect, they are likely NOT getting the message.
Profess your love and if it results in an awkward moment, you can recover from awkwardness more easily than from regrets. Regrets can last a lifetime.
The best for last: practice centering prayer and meditation.
I wish I had learned about that wonderful thing far earlier in my life.
2006-11-01 17:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by metronome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything in moderation: Food, liquor, sex, drugs, whatever you indulge in, do it moderately.
Regret tends to be for the things we DIDN'T do, not for the things we DID do that didn't go well.
Say what you're thinking. Speak your mind. Who benefits from keeping things to yourself?
A beautiful or attractive person is only beautiful for a while. Intelligence lasts till you die.
Trust your instincts. They're right most of the time.
When in doubt, communicate. NO relationship ended because of too much communication.
Don't confess stuff to your significant other in order to make yourself feel less guilty. That's purely selfish and is a good way to lose someone.
Tell people what you want, don't expect or wait for them to guess or ask.
You cannot protect your children from life. Let them experience things on their own and hope for the best. If you stifle them, you'll end up with fragile, shallow children.
ALL hatred derives from fear.
People are tribal by nature.
The only TRUE instinctive ambitions are for life, shelter, safety, food and access to mating prospects. All the other ambitions are manifestations of those needs.
Anyone who says 'violence never solves anything' has never read history.
The opinions of other people about you are secondary to your opinion about yourself.
2006-11-01 17:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont be in such a DAMN HURRY to grow up. Believe this... you WILL spend the rest of your life as an adult and having to act as such. Being a responsible, mature adult is not all what its cracked up to be.
Women today are NOT put on this earth to bear children. Live your life for you, and when and if its time, give to your own child. That also should mean a chance at a good college.
Time REALLY DOES go by quicker as we age.
Looks ARE NOT everything, they will fade. So get an education and use the brain god gave you.
The little cliches that go on in school are meaningless in real life.
Last but not least, LOVE..... I DO remember how strong young love is. Train your heart and brain to understand the choices you make when it comes to men. The actual feeling of Love can be misleading. You CAN live without this person. Im not sure of the percentage, but I can say who we spent time with young, is not what we look for in a person as the years go by. I guess Im saying we get more in tune with what WE need for ourselves to be happy and if that man makes you feel negative, he is not for you. Respect yourself to not let a man hurt you physically.
2006-11-01 17:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Everything the older folks tried to teach me. I learned it all the hard way. My way. What I understand better now is to really listen to the word of experience. I still believe you have to figure things out on your own. We learn from mistakes but some are hard to recover from. Stealing, lying, drugging, poor choices in friends, cheap sex, no respect for the law, trendy politics, education, all were choices I could have done better at. I had to do it my way and wish I could go back and change it but I can't. I have to own up to being wrong on alot of things. I suffer because of alot of poor choices.
2006-11-01 17:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had known about God at a younger age (altho' my parents tried to tell me).
I wish I had known that Christianity is true and that Darwinism is foolish unfounded nonsense long before I found it out.
I also (like the person above me), wish I had known how important it was to get a good education and do it early in life.
2006-11-01 17:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by Wayne A 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The importance of a good eduction. I wish I were 18 again and knew everything.
2006-11-01 17:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by llewintx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I have to offer is keep your expectations realistic and to learn to go with the flow. If you don't, you will always be disappointed....
2006-11-01 17:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by Megan P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself and never do things because you think you are "supposed" to. Listen to your heart and disregard your brain. Good luck!
2006-11-01 18:37:50 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your degree.
2006-11-01 16:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by just nate 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋