I wanna be in a sorority!! My roomie is a Delta, we get along great but how do I join or ask her bout joinin?

Question

I wanna be a Delta! My roomate is a delta and I wanna pldge but i don't know the first thing about pledging. She and I get along, and I have helped in some hard times and we have been there for each other. Tho I never hinted at becomgin a delta, I would love to join.
How to I go about telling her, or should I even bring it up?

Answer 1

I was going to be in a frat but I decided that what my sisters to be wanted me to do to my brothers to be was too freaky even for me!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Go to their website and check out what events they have coming up. Or go to your student union and ask them for a contact name for that sorority. You could ask your friend for information but I wouldn't suggest it. You also have to remember that your friend will not be as nice as she is right now when you become an interest because that's just what they do, so you may feel a little discouraged since you already know her and she won't be supportive during the process, it's just part of the initiation though.
And make sure you look into other organizations as well. Go to all of their events and get to know the girls there. Make sure they know your face. Who knows, maybe Deltas are not the right organization for you and you may feel more at home with another sorority, and it is ok for you to be from another sorority than your roomate.
OH and I agree with the last post, make sure you know their colors and you don't wear them. That will just bring hell to you from the beginning.
Good luck girlie!! And make sure you pledge where you feel more comfortable and not just because your roomie is there :)

Answer 3

I agree with the part about looking into other organizations so you know what each one stands for but i totally disagree w/ not telling her...telling her she would bring you around and introduce you to the other girls actives job is to recruit new people.. me the girl went to high school together and we were friends but she was a year older then me and we ending up at the same college and randomly we had a class together and i asked her about her sorority and she took me to some of the events and made me feel acceptable... you wanting to be in the sorority will only make yours bond stronger...yes there will be times that you will have to listen to her but that will be at the apporitate time not all the time.. i definitely think you should talk to her about it.. I'm positive she will be excited to her the news and give you the information you need

Answer 4

Alright sista...keep an open mind with this answer. (I'm currently a college professor and administrator, as well as a Regional Director for my fraternal organization.)

Ask yourself what is it about the Deltas that make you want to become one? Is it because you get along so well with your roommate, or is there something inherently prevalent that exists in Deltas that doesn't exist in any other sorority???

In my experience (and also according to most alumni), most students who join Black Greek organizations don't remain active after graduation. They just see it as a "college thing".

The truth of the matter is that organizations like these are supposed to develop community leaders that maintain their memberships for life. FOR LIFE. (If you and your roommate had a falling out and were no longer friends, would you still want to consider yourself a Delta FOR LIFE???)

The ideal situation is that members should be MORE active after graduation than during college. If you can't see yourself becoming MORE involved in the activities and community service that the Deltas are supposed to promote, then I would advise against it.

NOW...all that being said...

I would HIGHLY consider looking at all of your options. Have you done your research and really checked out EVERY other sorority out there??? Don't make the mistake that many students make when it comes to pledging Greek organizations...too many of our Black college students try to make themselves over to better fit into an organization, rather than finding the one that's already promoting the values that align with their own.

What do you value? Do the Deltas value the same things???

Do yourself a favor...it only takes two-and-a-half minutes. Go to the website www.SwingPhiSwing.org and check out another alternative.

Swing Phi Swing is the country's LARGEST non-Greek social fellowship for Black women. I'm a member of Groove Phi Groove (Swing's brother organization), and both of these fellowships are grounded in Black history and culture. Here are some facts and benefits of being in Groove Phi Groove (or Swing Phi Swing):

1) Non-Greek does not mean "anti-Greek". It means that we choose a history that is in greater alignment with our own culture and background.

2) The symbol we know as "phi" was actually a symbol that ancient Greeks stole from the people of Kemet (in northern Africa...Egypt to be specific). Groove Phi Groove was founded in the early 1960's in the height of the civil rights movements sweeping colleges. The brothers of Groove Phi Groove chose to reclaim the symbol "phi" as our own...declaring to the nation that there really is no such thing as a Black Greek.

3) Black Greek organizations do not collaborate with each other. EVER. They are divisive, often fighting with other Black Greeks. On the other hand, there is no relationship that comes close to the relationship between Grooves and Swings. Once you join, you automatically have a network of Black men and women nationwide who support you in any way possible...during AND after college.

4) Members become much more active in their respective graduate chapters than in the undergrad chapters. Our fellowships are the only fellowships NATIONWIDE that have joint conclaves...every summer, thousands (literally THOUSANDS) of members of both organizations meet in a city and completely take over that city. (This year was Atlanta, 2007 will be in Vegas, 2008 will be in Houston.)

5) Go around your campus and ask women why they joined the sororities they joined. I'm willing to bet that almost all of the answers will be "Because I like the people" or something like that. The thing that most students forget is that you can still like the people and have close relationships with the people without becoming a member. So that reason doesn't make a great deal of sense. Even though you should like the people you'll be working with, the TRUTH of the matter is that you should join an organization because of WHAT THAT ORGANIZATION MEANS TO YOU.

So I'll ask you...how is being a Delta different from being an AKA or a Sigma? If your roommate was a Sigma would you consider pledging Sigma?

I apologize if this was a bit longer than most other answers. But that's what happens when you become a Groove or a Swing...you tend to research and disseminate information that help your people as much as possible.

Email me if you want. My email is [e-mail].

Good luck with whatever decision you choose.

Answer 5

NO!!!!!! Do not bring it up!!!!!!!! If you make it "on line" you will catch hell from your Dean of Pledges. Go to all DST sponsored events and make sure they know your face, but don't kiss ***. Go to the interest meeting, do not wear their colors, and be as inconspicuous as possible. All sororities and Frats give hell to wannabes during the intake process.