question about sex?

Question

im really afraid to do it for the first time but i know sooner or later it will have to happen so my question is - does it hurt as bad as everyone says it does? and will i bleed the first time? am i freaking out over nothing? i really need help because i dont want to be this scared about it so if anyone could help me i would appreciate it very much!

Answer 1

Yes it hurts, yes you'll bleed, yes you will be making the biggest mistake of your life if u don't wait until u are ready. U aren't ready because of the ? u ask. Don't let peer pressure get to u. There is a very special man out there waiting to spend the rest of your life with u. Wait for him.If u don't u could end up with a disease a child that u would be responsible for. Sex is sex(in the back seat of a car) MAKING LOVE is something that the pain is worth it because you are joining with somebody u love and who loves u. Alot of kids will say they "are doing it" just to come off upper but alot of them are just as scared as u are. Do u have somebody close who can talk with u. GOOD LUCK. If you are ready to throw your life away remember to wear protection , doesn't matter if he says "I'll pull out, it will be okay. Don't believe him, protect yourself.

Answer 2

It will hurt especially if your partner isn't gentle about it. You will bleed, because there's what is is called the hymen, it's a "bubble" of blood just below your cervix. When it gets popped, you will bleed. This is where the very popular term popping your cherry comes from. It will hurt no matter what, but it will hurt less if he goes slow. There's nothing to be scared about. There's no point really. I don't know how old you are, but whatever age you are, you should wait until you're ready. If you're scared, your muscles down there will clinch, and that could possibly make it hurt even worse. Just be ready and try to stay relaxed. It's difficult, but you SHOULD wait until maybe you're older and more able to handle what's going to happen. Also make sure you're not doing it just to do it or to "be popular," please. Make sure you love the guy and he loves you.

Answer 3

It will depend on the size of the man you are with. if you are very tight, it is going to hurt and most women do bleed the first time they have sex. The bleeding usually occurs because the girl has a hymen which breaks the first time she has sexual intercourse.

The hymen is a small piece of thin skin which goes across the opening of the vagina and protects it when she is young. It has some gaps in it where the blood can come out when she has her period. Sometimes a girl might already have broken her hymen without knowing about it. For example, this can happen as a result of playing sports or horse riding.

Answer 4

It does hurt the first time you have sex, but let him know that it is your first time and to be gentle with you. Its not a horrifying pain, you will be able to handle it. As far as bleeding, not all girls bleed, i didn't. So don't be scared, when it happens you'll see you were worrying over nothing. Just make sure when you do decide to have sex you are ready emotionally and mentally, and that you do it with some one you really care about, don't have sex just to have it.
Good Luck!

Answer 5

Just remember , once you get started, its hard to stop so apparently it must not be too bad. The emotional aspect of it will hurt for a long time if you do it with someone your NOT sure about because thats a precious time in a females life that you only get to share once. Make sure they are very special and you have NO doubts. Speaking from a painful memory. Can't undo whats been done. Also use protection in every way.

Answer 6

Everyone is different. My first time did not hurt and I did not bleed. I was also with someone I really loved who went slow and took care of me. It depends on the circumstances and is different for each woman.

I can suggest that you wait until you find someone you trust to be gentle and be willing to stop if you ask them too. Never do anything you aren't 100% sure you are ready for. It can be a wonderful experience if you take the time to find the right partner.

Answer 7

DONT rush in to anything. If you are still scared then you ARE NOT ready. It;s not only a physical act. There is all kind of emotional baggage that comes right along with it. I didn't bleed my first time. It depends if your hymen is already broke, due to tampon use or things like horse back riding. It does hurt, but only for a minute or two. If your planning on having sex PROTECT yourself. You really need to be SURE that no one is pressuring you into anything and that you want this as much as your partner, I would really suggest you wait until if not until marriage at least until you are madly in love.

Answer 8

If you are this scared then I must ask are you really ready??? Take you time and wait for the right person...I wasted my first time on a jerk....

Don't feel rush no matter how old you are...I was 20 and I could have waited for someone more special, I just wanted to do it and that was the wrong reason.

It different for different people....some sporty girls don't bleed other do...take your time and Good luck.

Also I like to add that young people and seniors are the largest growing population of people getting AIDS...is it worth it???

Answer 9

You shouldn't take it so lightly you'll be making a mistake if your doing it just to get it over with. Yes it does hurt the first few times and you won't necessarily bleed the first time but you will eventually. If your feeling this scared about it that's a sign that you should defiantly wait. You don't want to regret it.

Answer 10

First of all Wait until the time is very right . It all depends on the person the way it feels and will it hurt. But if you do go through with it make sure you use a condom and make sure its not with someone that just wants to f**k. THINK ABOUT IT HARD YOU A VIRGIN ONLY ONCE.