But, alot of people think my daughter should pay me. I can't see taking money to babysit for my grandaughter. I babysit 5 days a week and for 8 hours a day.
2006-11-01 08:43:06 · 28 answers · asked by Corina 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I think you're doing a nice thing, helping your daughter out like that. If I had a granddaughter, I wouldn't even think of asking my daughter to pay me. My grandma took care of me when I was small, and she never once asked for payment. In fact, she gave money towards our well-being. It's a really nice thing for a mom to do for her daughter, and I hope someday my mom can take care of my baby.
2006-11-01 08:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How nice of you to do this. I too babysit for my grandkids (ages 4 and 2) and do not take money. In your situation, do you need the money in order to survive? Is your daughter working because she honestly needs the money in order to survive or is she working for the 'extras' in life.
I don't take anything for babysitting, but then again, I don't do it full time. If I did, I probably still wouldn't take any $$, but I think it depends upon your own situation. My mom helped me out when I was working and my kids were small. I only worked 2 days per week. Our family tries to do things for one another without $$ entering into the picture. On the other hand, I never abused my parents babysitting, where my daughter, if allowed, would have me babysit all the time.
Weigh your options and try not to be influenced by 'alot of people'. Do what is right for the both of you.
2006-11-01 08:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by wanninonni 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I think it's great that you can help your daughter like this: daycare is expensive and it's extremely difficult to find good one. Are you doing this to help your daughter financially? My guess if people are telling you she needs to pay you that she has the means to do so. Do you feel taken advantage of? If not, go with what feels right to you. My guess is you feel the priviledge of getting such great quality time with your granddaughter is payment enough. Just tell those nosy people that and then ask them when was the last time they spent more than a hour with their grandchildren. I think it's great that you're doing this: BRAVA GRANDMA! But your daughter needs to appreciate this and show you her appreciation also. She's very LUCKY! I agree with the earlier dinner out suggestion: or maybe she could get you a membership to something you enjoy so you can do something for yourself too!
2006-11-01 11:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where alot of people are coming from for charging your daughter money for watching your grandaughter. Personaly if I were you I wouldn't ask my daughter to pay me I would only expect that she would supply a majority of the stuff needed depending on the age. For example if she was in diapers then i would expect my daughter to supply those. Otherwise no your daughter shouldn't have to pay you. Your family.
2006-11-01 10:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by whitney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother watched all three of our kids when they were little. I never paid her a dime, we really couldn't afford to. She was at home and offered to sit. However, I am a hairstylist and return the favor by not charging her for any hair service, and do not expect her to pay for product. Is there a way your daughter can do something similar for you? If you are missing out on a job and need the income, you should mention this to your daughter, it is only fair you recieve some type of compensation.
2006-11-01 14:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by dpbuck10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother actually babysat for me when I first went back to work. I paid her even though she didn't expect me to. Well- she eventually ended up getting really upset if I forgot to pay her and she would get plain hateful about not getting her money. It really hurt our relationship. So, I think its completely up to you, but I think it should be something that is thought through and discussed thoroughly with your daughter so she will know what to expect. Communication is a good thing in a situation like this, just to make sure everyone is on the same page.
2006-11-01 08:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by Amy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless you for doing that. My grandmother and mother both babysat for me when my son was little. It was a huge help. I was a young single mom and was unable to pay them. I always made sure to provide them with the needs of my son (diapers, formula, food and snack that kind of thing).
If your daughter has the means there is nothing wrong with asking her to pay you something nominal. I am sure you can come up with some type of arrangement. Maybe treating you to take out or dinner once a week something like that. It is what I would do for my mom or gram.
As long as you are not feeling taken advantage of there is nothing wrong with what you are doing. I am sure you are enjoying spending time watching your grandchild grow up. Enjoy this time it is precious as you know.
2006-11-01 08:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by Hopey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The answer to this question is really up to you. if you like doing it and don't mind doing it for free, then you should just enjoy the time you have with your granddaughter, because believe it or not she will treasure it forever. My son used to stay with his grandma all the time and now he wants to stay with her every chance he gets. If you need the money or want to be paid for your time then talk to your daughter about it. You said you can't see taking money from her, so don't. Look at it this way she can use that money to make your grand daughter happier, and I'm sure that's what you bother want, is for her to be happy.
2006-11-01 09:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very sweet u are helping her for no charge,... there are a few things you should consider... how long will you be watching her.. for years or just until she is how old or what.. Is she poor? are you rich? can she afford much.. if so, i think it wouldnt be to bad if you just said hey, do you thinlk you can help out with the groceries for her.. maybe like 20 a week if she is poor or go up from there if she makes a bit more.. If she is well off and isnt poor and has a good job, you need to speak up, she is taking advantage.. and i wouldnt be surprised if she knows she should be helping out with some $$ im sure its crossed her mind too.
2006-11-01 08:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You daughter should offer to apy you whether you want the money or not. You are doing her a favor and she should show she appreciates all that you are doing for her. It does not have to be a lot of money but it should be something.
I use to pay my parents for watching my kids while I was at work.
If you don't need the money you could put it aside to tak a cruise or vacation. You deserve it for being a wonderful mother and grandmother.
2006-11-01 08:48:06 · answer #10 · answered by hsp_goddess 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋