Girls are allowed to wear guy's shirts, jeans, undies, tshirts, etc. And then they still primp and apply beautiful makeup while enjoying wearing male clothes. I adore primping and wearing pretty makeup while wearing girls clothes - low-rise jeans, blouse, wedge flip-flops, satin-n-lace thongs, perfume. Honestly, I can look very pretty and fem as a boy who looks like a girl rather than the opposite. Why is this 'frowned' on? Are there girls and ladies who are comfy with a guy who can and enjoys being feminine and pretty? Yes, I do enjoy being totally smooth, totally fem, - pedicures are the best - and being out and about as a girl.
2006-11-01 08:39:24 · 17 answers · asked by Ronni K 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I hear that a lot- that women get to essentially cross-dress, but men cannot, that a drag queen is much more controversial than a drag king. I disagree; put a woman in a full suit or tuxedo- and not a feminized version- with slicked back, pinned-up, or short hair, and no makeup, and most people will react with shock.
The difference is that woman's clothing has moved so much further to the center, to being more unisex. What is male clothes? Pants? One day it was, now everyone wears them. T-shirts and jeans have become the norm for both sexes, despite often having design differences (i.e. hip-huggers, etc. for women). However, men's clothing choices remains stubbornly at the edges, never moving to the center; the only time a man can wear a skirt is pretty much if it is a kilt and he is Scottish. So it's not so much that girls can wear 'male clothes' and men can't wear 'girl's clothes', but that the clothing girls wear nowadays aren't really male, but more unisex, while woman's clothing remains a secret bastion of theirs, unable for men to access.
Also, there is, sadly, the gay factor- many people can still not separate homosexuality from cross-dressing or even just non-steroetypical gender expression. There is so much fear of male homosexuality that boys are kept strongly within their gender roles- strong, tough, manly. Boys who act like 'sissies' are accused of being gay even though they may not be. Therefore, for a man to like these 'girly' things- being smooth, feminine, smelling nice, primping, wearing makeup- they are seen as either an indication of your being gay, which makes certain homophobes uncomfortable, or they are seen as indication of your messing with gender roles, which makes a lot of close-minded people uncomfortable. A lot of factors, including the women's movement and women's fashion towards unisex, have allowed for girls to be more tomboyish without being accused of being lesbians or wanting to be men. It's unfair, but there it is. You also mention that these girls in 'men's clothes' still primp and wear makeup- which might be why they are more accepted- they are little princesses playing dress-up, in everyone's eyes. A man who wears the clothing but doesn't retain much stereotypical masculinity (by wearing perfume and makeup, acting feminine and pretty) isn't seen as having the same goals, you see.
Personally, I LOVE boys like that! I wish there were more around, so I could find myself one. I'd probably be the butcher of the relationship, and it'd be fine with me! But honestly, don't worry, there are girls who like that, although a lot will (sadly) dismiss you as gay. Take heart, though. Cheers!
2006-11-01 09:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'm sitting her cackling at the very idea of my girlfriend wearing makeup of any kind and doing anything that even remotely resembles primping!!! She's just not the froo-froo type. However, she does wear some guys clothes but she's not unrecognizable as a girl. As far as a guy wearing girls clothes...whatever floats your boat! I wouldn't have a problem being friends with a guy who cross dressed. As long as there were absolutely no other intentions involved I'd have no problem with it. Just because I don't understand something doesnt' mean that this is a reflection on how I would treat this person.
2006-11-01 08:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's one of those social customs that just is the way it is. There's no real logic behind it; people think it's just natural, even though what is considered women's clothing and men's clothing has changed a great deal. Think togas or medieval gowns on men. One of my favorite quotes is "be who you are and say what you feel. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." Just be yourself. You can't please everyone.
2016-03-28 03:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know. I was discussing the very question the other day. I think it's wrong that boys can't wear what they want. I'm for equality all the way even for small matters like that.
It was once frowned upon for girls to wear boys clothes...but as you can tell that changed, so maybe the say will happen vice-versa.
2006-11-01 08:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, it goes back to actress Marlene Dietrich. She was the female equivalent of a TV and, because of her celebrity, she could get away with it. Her dressing as a man made it fashionable, and opened the door for other women to do likewise. What guys need is for a Rock Hudson or a Sean Connery to start walking around in drag. Not that I see that happening, but it's a nice image.
2006-11-01 10:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a good question, and Cando (above) has an answer that pretty much sums it up.
It seems that when guys wear women's clothes, it's deemed as a sign of weakness, however when women wear men's clothes (or women's clothes fashioned after men's clothes), it's seen as a sign of strength.
What I find perplexing, is that those who push for equality between the sexes (especially 'feminists') don't encourage this idea (men's fashion being more unisex) more.
2006-11-01 10:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by mick_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that girl clothes are usually revealing and./or tight fit. So maybe there are certain parts of the male body that are not supposed to be too revealing but are so in girl clothes. Sorry, does that make sense? I'm just rambling now. And guy clothes are generally loose fit, so they look ok on anyone.
2006-11-01 09:32:16 · answer #7 · answered by BambiQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno I get weird looks when I buy in the guys section for clothes even though I'm a feminine looking female so I really think it's still "frowned" on both ways which is ridiculous! And that's in the L.A. area too.... supposedly liberal. Sounds like you know more about being a girl than I do!
2006-11-01 08:50:04 · answer #8 · answered by Des Demona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, personally, I love rocking the girl pants. They're hott. I think it is not as accepted one because of the male superiority complex (they do not want other men dressing like that, because they think it makes all men appear soft if one man is) and two, because of women's place in society in this age, they cannot do some of the things they do in dresses and skirts, it is more practical. Thirdly, because there are less femme-males than women(who wish to be seen as = to men), their side is not as argued as women's rights, there are not as many protestors. Besides, in the past few decades, guys have been dressing more femme-male (not really dresses and skirts but still more femme) But hey, it's hott. =^-^=
2006-11-01 08:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Sirius Black 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I haven't got a clue. I've never understood the double standard myself.
I had a crossdressing friend in college. He was your perfect gentleman, he just liked wearing women's clothes...and actually looked perfectly acceptable in them as well.
2006-11-01 08:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋