I saw him one day put one of my ebay bought clowns in hishooded sweatshirt and I asked him to take it out and he called me a "ho" and walked out. I approached my daughter but when I tell her what happened she says I only say it was him because he is black. She got his name tatooed above her butt and has cornrows now and I don't know how to get her to tell him to stop robbing my house I don't want him in my house but she lets him in when I'm not home. I think they might be having sex in my house thats why she lets him in, why does she call me racist when my 2 year old is half black, I don't understand. How can I be racist when my son is half black? Maybe he splits what they steal? I keep finding burnt tinfoil wrapping around like it was burned with a lighter. Is that something?
What should I do?
2006-11-01 08:37:33 · 27 answers · asked by Another Chubby Feminist 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't let him in but she does when I'm not home and when I get there I shoo him to leave but he's always there. And I did see him steal the clown but he wouldn't give it back he just said ho to me face and left.
2006-11-01 08:43:27 · update #1
I only say he's black because thats why she says Im racist for saying I saw him steal.
2006-11-01 08:44:49 · update #2
Screw these holier than thou types like dumdum (responded above), what does she know about anything? She's a democrat and a liberal and that is all you need to know about a fair and balanced answer from a source like her.
Call the cops, and have them throw the thief and your daughter in jail.
BTW, they are smoking crack in your house, and yes, they are having sex in your house. Yuck!
2006-11-01 14:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by submariner662 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If this is really happening you need some serious help. I'm assuming your daughter is underage. You need to be the mother and set down rules, and if she doesn't do what she is supposed to give her consequences. Next time he is in your house you call the police for tresspassing and if he steals again you call the police regarding that. The burned tinfoil is an obvious sign of drug use. If they are using or dealing out of your home you can be legally responsible if your house is raided. This sounds like a lot, and you will probably need help. Call around to some human service agencies and see if you can get some in-home counseling or something for you and your daughter.
2006-11-01 08:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by freecounselingrocks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have some issues on your hands and this boyfriend is the least of your issues, it seems to me your daughter is out of control and that did not happen over night. She is using drugs you name it crack, meth, or weed, heroin, all could be smoked in foil. You need to get some control over your child, she has no respect for you at all, or he or anyone else would be in your home when you are not there. Where is her father? You better get a grip and quick At whatever the cost, you did not mention how old she is, however if a juvenile, call the police, go to the courts and have her put on probation. Do your job as a mom! What ever you do, you better do something quick she is on her way! If she is grown then send her on her way, tough love, she will figure it out sooner or later, she is going down the road wrong, down a one way the wrong way fast. God bless
2006-11-01 08:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no reasoning with someone young and "in love". "Racist" is just another smokescreen she's using to defend something indefensible.
It also means she may have her own doubts, because she certainly doesn't have anything of substance to counter with.
She sounds out of control. Maybe there are other issues that need to be worked on, that will eventually end the relationship.
Have you asked authorities if there is any way that they can check on who's there when you're not? If you can have a friend or neighbor do it, and report to you, can you have him removed from the premises? Working and being away from your child is often the only option, and I sympathize with that.
2006-11-01 08:46:34 · answer #4 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put video cameras around where they can't be seen. Change the locks on your doors and don't give your daughter a key. Oh, and the burnt tinfoil? Sounds like drug abuse to me. Get your daughter drug tested. Next time you find something missing, or see him take something, calmly call the cops without him knowing. When they get there, tell them that you witnessed this guy stealing something. Oh, BTW, you're the adult....get a restraining order against him.
2006-11-01 08:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by KitKat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you got a huge problem, burnt foil is for drugs not sure if its meth or weed but what else would you use it for, stealing and drug use go hand in hand, Call the police and turn them in or keep dealing with it? Its up to you, the only way to open her eyes is with a police officer shining a flashlight in them! And get her some drug rehab treatment.
2006-11-01 08:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all that is your house and you pay the bills and if you dont want him in your house then call the cops and have is @ss removed and if you daughter is letting him in when you are not home then i think you should throw her little @ss out too because either she is helping him steal from you or she knows he is and just letting him do it if she thinks she is old enough to get a tatto then she should be old enough to get the h3ll out.you should tell her if she doesnt respect your rules then her and her stealing @ss man will be thrown out either by you or the cops so tell them to pick one!! good luck
2006-11-01 08:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police...on BOTH of them!!
If you've seen him, or anyone else, steal from you, call the police.
If you find drug paraphernalia in your daughter's room, don't pretend like you don't know what it is. The fact that you're questioning it lets me know that you know EXACTLY what you're dealing with. Kick her out and call the police to ensure she stays out.
By failing to admit to the real problem, your daughter, and her associates, are heavy drug addicts, you're condoning her actions. And you allow her to defy your wish to keep her boyfriend out of YOUR house.
2006-11-01 09:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by Cool-K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you asked the question above, you made sure you added the word black boyfriend...if you are not racist then why bring that fact out in your dilemma, does it really matter what color he is- if he is stealing then he is a thief no matter what color.
If your daughter's boyfriend would have been white, would you have said white boyfriend?
2006-11-01 08:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by earthstarlatin 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
burnt aluminum foil might be something like crack or crystal meth. they have home drug test at like cvs or drug stores now that you can buy. they are like 13.00 or 15.00 not too bad. as far as the thief boyfriend i would call the cops. start getting complaints in about him. either he'll then stop stealing or they will search his place and lock him up. goodluck
2006-11-01 08:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋