I'm nervous about an upcoming appointment, but I keep telling myself that I don't want to be nervous at all. Do you think people can just choose not to be nervous or scared and just switch off those feelings by choice, or is it involuntary?
2006-11-01 08:33:47 · 10 answers · asked by KatGuy 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's all about understanding your fear and the causes of it. Once you get to the root of the fear, you can begin to work on how to overcome it. With something like this where there is an upcoming event that you are nervous about, it's easy to not see what the real fear is. It could be fear of rejection, exposure, prosecution, or a myriad of other things, but you might be focusing on something more obvious, and ignoring the underlying fear which leads you to feel this way more often.
2006-11-01 09:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by skyzefawlun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe its an involuntary response but by being prepared, it becomes more controllable.
Im sure there are those who are not as affected by these feelings, such as the risk taker who just cant wait to jump out of a perfectly good airplane, etc.
The dentist used to scare me. In the Army, I was able to choose what I had done, and when. Once I took control, the fear left for good.
2006-11-01 16:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's involuntary, but you can think of something else to get your mind off of that, and that might take away from the nervousness, up until that date anyways.
Your body chooses the emotions for you, just like falling in love, you don't get to choose who you fall in love with, which is why i think we also are able to be nervous, without question or any knowledge in order to change it.
But yeah, just think of something happy or something else, to get your mind off of this appointment, and chances are you'll feel better about it later on. =]
2006-11-01 16:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear is usually overcome by habitually doing the thing that you are afraid of. Whether or not a person takes that step to overcome the fear is usually a choice. People are not naturally risk takers. It's just that some people are more likely to make themselves change than others. But not being afraid comes from habit.
2006-11-01 16:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by Madflea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, you need to put yourself through a few times of the same situation, and the fear starts to go away once you've survived.
And you will survive.
That's why they tell job-seekers to take many interviews. Eventually, they will learn the game, relax because they've gotten a little used to it, and do just fine!
2006-11-01 18:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's involuntary. I worry alot to, it gets kind of annoying sometimes.
2006-11-01 16:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by gilbert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can think of is to tell yourself the outcome is not important. You will do your best and see what happens. If you are religious, tell yourself it's in God's hands and whatever happens it will be for the best.
2006-11-01 17:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by The Gadfly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you can choose to not be scared or nervous... whether you tell yourself repeatedly or not...
Try saying it out loud to yourself... Words have power, you know?
2006-11-01 16:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by just nate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear is a good thing!! If you wasnt scared or nervous you would do REALLY STUPID STUFF!!!... Just remember that... grab ur *****, focus on what you have to do and JUST DO IT!!
2006-11-01 16:41:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yessss, just act tuff, u can do it. say stuff like i love u mom.
2006-11-01 16:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋