We have been living in the same house in 'separation' for over 2 years. Health and money issues have kept us from fixing our house and selling it and moving on. It is no longer a healthy environment for my kids or myself and I need to find the best way to move out without completely distrupting their lives. We can't afford for one of us to live in the house and the other in an apartment. We have medical bills and a child in college, plus I've just started back to work after 11 years. I fear if I don't get out, I never will and what kind of environment is that for my children? Anyone have any suggestions besides to just leave? It's not that simple. I'm trying to get my house in order to put on the market, but that's costly, too. I would like to ask him to leave.
2006-11-01 08:29:10 · 4 answers · asked by J N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been there, Health and Money issues is an excuse for you to continue putting yourself and your children in an unhealthy environment.....that alone is disrupting their lives. Thank God one child is out of the house and trying to better themself with an education and the opportunity to find out----every household is not like the one they grew up in.
Two months after giving birth and with another child 20 months old, I packed two bags of clothes for each of my children, grabbed 5pairs of jeans and tops, a pair of boots and my tennis shoes, Drove 65 miles to the town I worked in and I did get very blessed to find a house to rent RIGHT NOW, went to wal-mart and purchased a wind up clock so I could get up for work the next morning and one day followed the next. Fortunately, my childrens babysitter lived in the same town I worked in.
It took nine years to finally get a divorce, A divorce kit, his signature(his hand forced by his girlfriend), notorization, and filed that baby at the court house. End result children are now 20 and almost22.and he never paid child support until my youngest turned 18.
Get Out yourself if you are that miserable, evidentally the other party is not as unhappy with the set-up you have now or they would have already left.
Everything you are worried about leaving behind is material, this is sapping the life out of you and taking your Joy. Leave
2006-11-01 08:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by zorahudson@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1- look for a lawyer that will take payment from you until the D is final
2- before you sale the house you should look at the price of rental
Rental is so expensive one of you might be better off keeping the house (the one that will have the children)
You will be fine their will be a lot of bump on the road
but when you are unhappy with someone the bump are less bumpy
Good luck
2006-11-01 08:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, go to your county clerk and request a divorce packet. They are not very costly, and one of the stipulations that you can ask the judge to acknowledge, you can ask that your soon to be ex carry some of the weight, their are also pro bono attorneys, and remember to keep a paper trail, copy everything, keep it safe and good luck.
2006-11-01 09:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO TO OFFICE DEPOT AND BUY A DIVORCE KIT 20 ISH DOLLARS AND FILL THEM OUT EXACTLY AS THEY SAY AND THEN 70-100 DOLLARS TO FILE IN FAMILY COURT ...THAT IS IT AND INEXPENSIVE. HAVE YOU TRIED COUNSELING? FAMILY IS SO MUCH WORTH FIGHTING FOR. IT IS SO VERY HARD ON THE KIDS ...FROM A DIVORCED MOTHER
2006-11-01 08:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋