OK, I think to meet the right person you need to know about them. I love having fun and goofing off and don't like a girl that is too serious. Can I get some feedback on these things?
1) I feel like all women deserve to have, the door opened, the chair pulled out, the offer to have the meal paid for....and other similar things....is this too old fashioned?
2) I think it is okay to compliment a girl on her body and her looks and also (after dating a while) tell a joke that is a compliment about thier nice features (no matter what they are) as long as she is comfortable with that. Is that wrong?
4) I enjoy dancing with a girl at a club and only want to date a girl that can let loose and shake it a little. Would you say that is fair?
5)Even though I am just 18, but my pay, my car, and clothes are really nice (computer job), but I don't want her to brag about them or like me just for those things. Is that fair of me?
So I'd love to know if there is any girl out there like me
2006-11-01 08:28:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
gurls love the little things jus dont try to control us we hate that....and gurls love compliments..so keep them coming...and hey i like to have too and i wouldnt want to be wit a guy whos not having fun
2006-11-01 08:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by something_sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. I don't think its too old fashioned. However, there are women who don't like it.(they are probably not worth dating if they are that sensitive about that stuff)
2. Here is a tip. Women are very sensitive about their appearance and feel criticized if you joke about them. (this is a sure fire way to end up in the dog house, because there is no woman that confident) Compliments= good....Jokes= very very bad!
3. Personally I don't think that dancing should be a deciding factor in a relationship. If it's that important to you I guess its fair.
4.We love to be envied. Don't take it personally. The kind of girl you describe as your ideal woman will probably be vocal to her friends about her "great catch". She may also be shallow. Not necessarily fair but it is true. You have those nice things to impress people and to impress girls, right? Well it attracts girls who focus on material things (they date you mostly because of those things). It's is one of the drawbacks to displaying them. Relax, looking for the "girl of your dreams" makes it much harder to see the girl you are "meant to be with" when she comes along. She may not fit your perfect picture but you may end up happier in the long run. You sound like a great guy. I hope you find her.
2006-11-01 09:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by bookworm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the one thing that you mention that you should be cautious about is complimenting a woman on her body. Unfortunately, many of us see ourselves as flawed, and complimenting her may trigger a couple of responses: She may either think you're being insincere/attempting flattery, or she may feel that it's the only reason you like her. Just as you wouldn't want to be liked only for your apparent good finances, a woman doesn't want to be liked only for her physical self, so be cautious of this sort of compliment too early in the relationship. Stick to things that are more neutral - hair, perhaps, or a perfume that you like, or perhaps a comment about how nice a particular outfit looks on her - early in the relationship. As for a joke about looks - I think that could backfire easily - I'd stick to sincere compliments at any stage of the relationship, rather than making jokes. Other than that, your ideas seem very reasonable, and I'm sure there is someone out there who's right for you, and for whom you are right as well.
2006-11-01 08:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Not wrong, but I think it should go both ways. One person shouldn't HAVE to pay for everything, offer once in a while, the other person should at least offer if nothing else
2. That is not wrong, that is flattery and as long as its meant well and isn't said just to get some booty, its fine.
3. You skipped :-P
4. I think its always wise and a good idea to date someone with similar interests. I myself don't like clubs and dancing, but if I did, I would expect my partner to at least comprimise on the deal if it wasn't their favorite thing. As far as dancing with other people that you aren't dating, don't go to far and don't make it look like anything other than dancing.
5. Thats fair. Best thing to do is avoid numbers. You don't have to tell her your exact pay. As for the car, just state you saved up for it a long time and finally was able to get what you wanted. If you think someone is with you just for that alone, dump them. If you don't want them to brag about it, don't brag about it yourself. I am well off, I can afford things on my own, but I'm not loaded and should be presented in a plain manner (make sense)
2006-11-01 08:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Old fasion romance is the way to go. We eat it up. Be sweet to her... be a gentleman! We dont want a guy who cant... and wont respect us.
2)Telling her she's beautiful is ok... But if i were to get complimented on my body, i would feel un comfortable. Im not a piece of meat, im a woman... its nice to know that he thinks youre attractive, but you want to be sure that he likes you for more than your butt (It all sags in about 60 years, so that isnt so comforting.)
3)in your list there wasnt a #3.
4)I think thats fair... you dont want to be dating a stiff. Just remember that her emotions are in play, and you shouldnt be serious about someone youve never met before.(i.e. some girl at a club...)
Get to know her, what she likes and dis likes...become attracted to her for who she is, not what she does.
5)If she's bragging about them, then she is proud of your accomplishments... or shes just playing "my horse is bigger" with one of her friends. Dont make such a big deal out of these things, but let her know that you will be able to provide for her.
2006-11-01 08:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by lauren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as too old-fashioned. Feminism has made women forget how nice it can be to just do something to make a guy happy, and how that will help him feel inclined to do the same.
2006-11-01 08:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) sounds nice to me
2) some women dont handle compliments well and it doesnt make a woman feel good for her date or boyfriend to tell her how great her butt is....instead tell her how much you admire her intellect
3) what happened to 3?
4) you like what you like
5) also sounds fair
2006-11-01 08:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by GAgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you siound like a really sweet guy... depending on what type of girl you go for you seem like a great b/f... however you shouldn't be afraid to mess around a bit!
2006-11-01 08:32:13 · answer #8 · answered by arika c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋