I dont feel comfortable having my daughter around my brother-in-law. When my husband & I want to go out, he usually suggests that we have his brother watch her & I just dont feel right about it, I dont know why but I get very nervous & feel terrified that he might do something inappropriate. I have yet to give my husband the real reason why I dont want her there. My daughter is 4, & my brother in law is a single man; 31 yrs old. I dont feel this way about any other man in her life. What should I do about this?
2006-11-01 08:25:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
be honest, try to be tactful, but don't ignore your gut feeling. If you have the resources do an on line background check on his *** heh he but seriously research his ***...
2006-11-01 09:02:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go with your instinct and get someone else to babysit. Have a talk with your daughter and ask her what she thinks of her uncle and if she has fun when he comes over. Maybe it'll give you some insight on how he relates with her. I wouldn't go around accusing him of anything, just tell your husband that you don't want to impose on him and you've already contacted so-and-so about watching your daughter.
2006-11-01 16:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother you have every right to act on your instincts. This is your child and you should protect her. If you have these feelings about your brother in law, then just go with your gut. I know that I wouldn't let anyone who I felt nervous about stay with my kids.
2006-11-01 16:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by corinasanc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with your instinct. Most of the time it's right. I know I get those kinds of feelings about certain men, it's our womanly instinct. It's your daughter and if he did do anything I know you would never forgive yourself. Tell your husband you don't feel comfortable leaving her with him and instead have a gf or someone else watch your daughter.
2006-11-01 16:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by volcomgrly23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely go with your instincts. I don't know if I would say anything to your husband about it or not. He may not understand and might get upset by the thought of you not trusting his brother.
2006-11-01 16:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him spend anymore time with your daughter. Your gut instincts are always right - follow them wholeheartedly!!
2006-11-01 16:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband how you feel. It might make him look at things differently.
2006-11-01 17:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by Ant O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably right. Mothers intuition is IMO very reliable. Hire a babysitter.
2006-11-01 16:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by TripleTattoo™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always listen to your gut. Tell your husband asap
2006-11-01 16:30:05 · answer #9 · answered by booktender 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you be up front with your husband about this listen a mother knows when things are not right you follow your fillings
2006-11-01 16:28:51 · answer #10 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋