Wife is so sensitive and critical on everything I say. We fought till 4:30 am last night because she says that I dont love her like I use to. I had to explain that people change and we are not young goo goo eyed kids exploreing ourselves. We have responcibilities and kids to take care of. Its not like I neglect her. We go out on dates every weekend and we do things constantly with the kids. She has breaks during the day (gym, shopping,computer surfing time, etc..) I do my best to confort her in her needs but she does nothing for me. If I do the slightest thing wrong, she secretly punishes me. She has no money worries and has everything she needs and 75% of everything she wants. I even wash clothes and dishes for her besides doing my man chores and work full time to support everything we have. I am very confussed about everything. Why does she stay so pissed all the time and why does she constantly ***** about everything that is not our problems. I am sick of it....She acts 18 years old
2006-11-01 08:24:30 · 28 answers · asked by aubreytaegan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK...answers to some questions. I guess you could call selling a groos of approximatly $100.00 a week on ebay an hobby. She is also active in choir in church and teaches kids choir. And no she is not sexually frusterated, that would be me. I have to admit that she needs more hugs and touching, and I need more lingerie "dress up" time on her for me. I tell her all the time that rearing kids is the hardest job in the world.
2006-11-01 08:55:09 · update #1
answers to questions.....yes she gained weight (about 40 lbs) and she has hit the gym hard and adjusted her diet. She is 10 lbs from her target weight and is very very attractive. But she complains about the stretched skin on her belly, she calls ot her "jelly belly"
2006-11-01 09:05:58 · update #2
*****My final thought on your comments****
I am an open minded husband that provides and holds up my end and more of the marriage. I cant make her be happy, she must find it in herself then do it. Us men deal with the problems in life and take it for what it is then correct the problems the best we know how. It seems to me that you weoman need a crutch and and ear so that your problems can be felt and heard but no correcting of the problem. This leads me to believe that the drama is your passion and you thrive on it. If my wife is unhappy with me and if she decides to wonder off, I will be sad, but trust me I will get over it. I dont need to waste my life trying to make someone happy because thats what they need. Grow up you weoman that act like this. Take what you want and need in an respectfull way and see things and people for what they are and not what you want them to be.
2006-11-02 01:08:46 · update #3
The one thing you forgot the most imported. You forgot that you are her husband. Yes you may make the money and go on dates And give her the world but the one thing she wants you won't give her anymore and that is you.I'm not talking about sex or a date I'm talking about you your arm you lips you heart YOu just holding her for no reason at all just because you want.People get married and then they forget how to love someone. don't get me wrong i know you love your wife but you show it by giving thing where before you would hold her make her laugh. If you want your wife back then you need to come back too. make time to play with your wife.Have the kids go some were one weekend so you two can fix yourself. Go to the place you guy loved to go to when you first got toghther. If you don't do something soon you could lose your wife. because she feel all alone
2006-11-01 08:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I've done both. I worked right upto having my son 13 years ago, then stayed at home with him.Then i had 2 more kids and still stayed home. Then after i had my 4th my husband left, so i had to get a job and pay the bills. I was lucky that i took my youngest to work with me, then had to put her in nursery 2 days a week. Now theyre all at school .I started my own business over a year ago, so just work 9.30 am till 3.30pm so can be home for them. I missed being able to be at home with my youngest child. It was heartbreaking having to take her to nursery and pre-school. The worst thing is school holidays. When my other kids were off we had lovely lazy days together all summer. Now i have to work most of the hols, and the kids are farmed out to various friends and relations, or come to work with me! Given the choice, i would be a stay-at-home mum like a shot, without a doubt. You can NEVER ever get back the time you lose with your kids, and it is so precious. Please don't lose the joy of their first teeth, their first step, even someone else potty training them seems wrong to me.And when they're older they need you just as much for things. The fact that youre there when they come in makes them feel secure. All these things can be missed. Just the time spent taking them out and walking with them is wonderful. Appreciate it!
2016-03-19 02:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Lots of opinions in 10 minutes or so! Hot topic that stay at home mom thing. I am a "sahm" and if the ages matched a bit better, I'd say you were my husband. Make sure there is not a medical issue, depression maybe?
Try to be positive and stick with it. Lean on God and try to encourage her to also.
I don't know what is wrong with me, so how can I possibly explain it to my husband? I would suggest a hobby though. Classes, art, music, or volunteer work (does wonders). Sounds like you can afford it. (We have money issues in addition to what you have. Have most of what we need, but not a whole lot that we want.) Can you tell I'm having attention span issues too? lol
2006-11-01 08:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by Deena 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Man seems like I was reading my life story. Except for the stay at home part, my wife works. It is because she is selfish. I bet she does not have many brothers or sisters does she? It seems like the more I give to my wife the more she wants. I will keep a watch to see if anyone gives some good advise.
2006-11-01 08:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by Joesmoe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long has she been this way? Has it been sence the birth of your last child? If so, she may suffering from Post Partum depression, and not even realize it.
Maybe she should get out and get a job, sounds like the life at a stay at home mom may not be her thing.
Ask her if she is suffering from some sort of depression. You need to be talking to her rather she likes it or not.
Let her know how hard and sorry it's gotten on you. Let her know your sick of it. This can be said with sencerity not in an argument.
2006-11-01 08:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe she doesn't put enough energy into herself... It may sound silly, but she is probably spending so much time taking care of the kids and house and everything that she has forgotten to give herself some TLC. Get her a gift cert for a day at the spa...it will relax her a bit and maybe start to put things in perspective.... Its worth a try! I see people like this on Oprah all the time... =0)
2006-11-01 08:28:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like she's not happy with herself for some reason and is inadvertently taking it out on the person she trusts most: you. Maybe if you propose you both talk to a professional to help improve your relationship you'll discover what's really going on with her without putting her on the defensive. Without her knowing, she may be trying to get some hidden emotions out of her system and bulldozing you along the way. Good luck!
2006-11-01 08:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes a special kind of person to be a stay at home mom. I personally can't do it. It may be that she needs something more to fulfill her life. A job or career. You often find in women that were very dedicated students or employees don't make great stay at home moms.
I could be way off base and like I said I have all the respect for stay at home moms, it is not easy and it is not for wimps. Us wimps go to work...lol
2006-11-01 08:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Maybe she's bored. Maybe her current life gives her no challenges that make her feel good about herself that she can feel like she accomplished something everyday. Taking care of the kids and house day after day is a thankless and endless job. Have a discussion (non judgemental) about how she feels about herself...her life...dreams she had that aren't coming true...is there something (job,hobby,business,volunteer work) she might want to do. Listen to what she is saying, without trying to solve the problem. Instead of getting pissed, try to find out what the "real" problem is. Just having you asking and trying to better her life, may make the situation better.
2006-11-01 08:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by Barry 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your wife is bored with herself not you. I act the same way with my husband and I'm beginning to think that's the case with me. I know this sounds corny but it kind of goes to show that money cant buy happiness you can have everything in the world and be miserable if you dont have God in your life. Anyway I hope that's it because that is my last resort I started to go to church and reading the bible not a christian yet but hopefully things get better for me.
2006-11-01 08:32:53 · answer #10 · answered by Kari 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋