Over the weekend my Dad & I had a fight. We exchanged words, cried, & apologized. I still feel weird about the situation because I rarely see my Dad cry & I have the image of his sad face in my mind sometimes. Whenver he's around now, I feel kinda strange..a little nervous, like I'm walking on eggshells & he seems to be extra nice to me. Maybe it's all a figment of my imagination?
The start of our argument came about because I told him I was feeling sad & lacking self-confidence because I have no job, no money & I needed to let it out. I wish I didn't because he's not a very good communicator. He's more of a laid back kind of man, very rational, not emotional, with a sarcastic sense of humor.
I know he loves me & I love him, but I can't help but feel strange around him at this time. I feel like I have to be happy/smiley around him otherwise he'll think something is wrong with me. I don't want to bring it up again with him, but how do I get rid of these feelings I have?
2006-11-01 08:16:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Both you and your dad sound like very good people. You need to be yourself around him and maybe talk to him about the way you are feeling now. If he is everything you say then I see him putting his sarcastic remarks aside to talk with you. Arguements happen because we are all different inside and out. He loves you and will be willing to do whatever it takes to help you through your problems. He may even help you get your confidence back and help you to find a job. You will be surprised what the LOVE dads have for their kids.
2006-11-01 08:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think getting a job will be very helpful here. It is hard (and doesn't feel good at all) when you have to suppress real feelings and pretend everything is OK. Eventually that situation would have to be corrected, as the human heart can't take it forever. So I think the job is going to be key here. It is too bad your dad isn't a good communicator, because that sure helps out with the bumps in life.
2006-11-01 10:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you feel weird you just experienced a side of your dad you have never seen before...but keep in mind he is a man and im sure he is past the situation although you are still stuck in it...as you grow up even more and become older you will probably start to find that you probably relate with your dad more then you ever knew...these situations seem weird at first but as time goes by you will realize things arent so bad...growing up our parents act certain ways toward us but deep down we are all emotional creatures and eventually it has to come out...just act as normal there is nothing to hide im sure your dad understands you and knows you more then you might think
2006-11-01 08:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by ELIZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you actually seeing your Dad cry had a very emotional affect. I have never seen my father cry. I have seen other men cry and it is just as emotional. I think it is the stereotype that men are supposed to be 'strong silent type' that society created many years ago and thankfully it's slowly going away.
I think if I saw my father cry I would actually have a heart attack. He is the epitome of 'strong and silent'. You should be ecstatic that you have a Dad that actually talks to you and isn't afraid to show his emotions. Be happy and don't worry! Next time you see him give him a great big hug and just say 'Thanks Dad for being there for me'. and let life go on.
2006-11-01 08:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by LadyMysticWolf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may not be a Dad, but i want to help you..........
That happened to me and my Dad one time. Just go up to him and say- I am sorry again for ever thing that happened over the weekend, So to make it up, lets go to dinner together tonight. Then on the way there, make a funny joke or when ever you get there, give him a GIANT hug and kiss on the cheek!!!
Hope this helps you
2006-11-01 08:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking is the only way to understand another person. You still have un-said things to say and maybe he does also. Things will feel different when things are out in the open.
2006-11-01 08:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jason M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya gotta be a parent to understand that we go thru more pain, because of your pain...we hurt sometimes cause we cant solve your problems, and we're the ones your supposed to come to....your dad's reaction tells me he loves you very much, so put the argument behind you and go on loving and living....
2006-11-01 08:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Water under the bridge - fhuggehtaboutit.
If he ain't trippin - neither should you
2006-11-01 08:19:34 · answer #8 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think what you are feeling is pretty normal. it will go away in a few days. good luck
2006-11-01 08:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both love each other. Try to help each other.
2006-11-01 08:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by Pitambri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋