Hubby and I were at a bar last night but ended it on a bad note. Need some advice. Hubby and I were having a good time talking to our friends when the couple behind him starts going off about him rubbing up against the woman standing behind him. (We'd been in that spot for hours and the bar was extremely crowded.) My husband was scolded by this guy, turned around and said to me, "He's the boss." I couldn't believe these jerks were treating the hubby like they were, and I gave them a piece of my mind. (No, not typical behavior but I'd had some to drink and couldn't stand idly by as they mistreated the hubby.) Later turned out they were friends of one of the guests of our party, and the girl (the instigator and potty mouth) acted like an innocent bystander. I set the record straight, and the hubby told me off because of it in front of everyone. I wasn't having any fun at that point and told him I wanted to leave. He's still upset over it. Please advise.
2006-11-01 08:16:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, no, no one was "rubbing up" against anyone. Hubby's costume included a huge, hairy coat.
2006-11-01 08:20:01 · update #1
just explain to him that u had a little too much to drink, and in ur point of view they were being quite rude to your husband!! apologize for overreacting and try to let it go.
at this point it doesn't really matter who's "fault" it is, because u both acted as u did at that time, under the influence of alcohol and a party atmosphere. sometimes people get upset when someone kinda "ruins" the mood... =T. try to loosen up a bit.. u could've complained to ur hubby (oh i can't believe those people, so rude!!) u didnt' have to cause a scene... u know? but u were defending him, so it's not like u intended to do anything wrong. it's over and done, try to let it go, and promise to try to stay "Positive" and deal with things together instead of giving strangers a piece of ur mind for no important reason. good l uck
2006-11-01 08:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by tarmee2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You exacted your pound of flesh earlier. You could have let sleeping dogs lie at the table, proving that you were the better man.. er. woman, but instead you proved that you could hold a grudge. If this was a long time friend, it was one thing, but it was a chance meeting and chances are you will not meet again, which means there was nothing to gain but everything to lose. If your hubby defended himself and you bore witness, then bravo, but if your husband wanted to let sleeping dogs lie and you were digging up bones, then it was something else.
It could have been worse. A friend of mine, young lady, was at a bar meeting some friends. One her friends was going to introduce his fiance. She was saying hello to the owner when a strange woman bumped into her at the bar. She didn't even say 'excuse me.' Then she said it was my friends fault for being in the way. Words were exchanged just before the hair pulling and the throwing of punches. The bouncer came and escorted her out of the club... (She wasn't going to leave until she got her pound of flesh.) Come to find out, it was her friend fiance. Oh well, live and learn. There are times when discretion is the greater part of valor.
2006-11-01 08:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to go to a bar......It is suppose to be fun......If you can't let something like this roll off of your back you really should not be drinking in a bar.....RELAX and have fun that is what going out is all about.
They were probably drinking too and you should have just ignored it...If it bothered your hubby that much he would have said something you did not need to get in the middle of it.
2006-11-01 08:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 22:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave costume parties for college students and teenagers... aren't you too old for that?
2006-11-01 08:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is one time to keep you big mouth shut and wait, let things cool down by them selves tis true time heals all wounds
2006-11-01 08:21:07 · answer #6 · answered by robert r 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone involved was at fault.
2006-11-01 08:19:44 · answer #7 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drunks never reason well.
2006-11-01 08:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should have not screamed at you so he's at fault
2006-11-01 08:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋