I have an apartment with my boyfriend. We are barely getting by. I work at kroger making pretty good money.. And I havent graduated from high school yet. I still have a the rest of this year and half of next year. When I graduate I won't be struggling because I am going to go straight to a state job. I am struggling at the moment tho, I need another job but I am 18, I haven't slept in the past 9 months, and I am always stressed out, and the only one who doesn't upset me is my boyfriend, he always trys to make me feel better. I need some advice really bad.
2006-11-01 08:15:21 · 9 answers · asked by JusWonderin06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
!st try your best to get good sleep that alone will help out with some of your problems.
2ND look up on the Internet ways to relief stress, just keep in mind that when u graduate life will get get easier . there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You have to be strong for now.
3rd try to apply for government help, u don't have to have kids to qualify. they can help u with bills, rent, and food.don't be scared to apply trust me if u play Ur cards right u wont need help for long. just don't quit school.
4Th make sUre that ur boyfriend ( if he does not have a job) ask him to get one. let him know how much u love him,but u need help.
5th try not to put all your heart in to that apartment, i know it is your home for now but it will never be urs no matter how much heartand work u put in to it. TRY leasing a house to own that will be your house and u can put ur heart in to it.
6th don't let no one bring u down, if u really love ur man with all urheart and he loves u back,don't let any thing get in the way of love, not money, not stress, or people, be strong for each other. love each other.that's good that he can always make u feel better.
7th OK i know ur young but u chose this life, now u have to grow up fast. believe me it's better to strat saving money and investing at a young age because u will end up rich if u do it right. i know that you may not worry about stuff like that right now but trust me SAVE MONEY and ur future will be a lot better, u wont have to live check to check.
I HOPE U TAKE THISADVICE FROM ME I GOT PREGNET WHEN I WAS 15, MY MOM ALSO KICKED ME OUT. MY BOYFRIEND AND I LIVED IN APARTMENTS PAYED A LOT OF MONEY(wasted) . WE LIVED PAY CHECK TO PAY CHECK, IT WAS STRESSEDFULL, FINIALY WE HAD TO MOVE BACK TO HIS DADS HOUSE. WE ARE SAVING MONEY NOW TO BUY A HOUSE AND MOVE OUT.I'M 26 AND AM STILL WITH MY HUSBAND, 11 YEARS TOGETHER AND THINGS ARE JUST NOW GETTING EASIER. IF I WOULD HAVE BEEN SMART AT THE AGE OF 18 I WHOULD HAVE HAD AN EASIER LIFE. DON'T GET ME WRONG I LOVE WHAT GOD GAVE ME A BEAUTIFUL FAMILY (2 BOYS)
WELL I WISH U THE BEST.TAKE CARE
OH YEAH EXCUSEMY SPELLING.
2006-11-01 09:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you left, not that your mother put you out. You want to think that you are old enough to make your own decisions, but you didn't think very far ahead. You could have stayed under the same roof as your mom and dad and wait until after high school to get that serious, saving money in the mean time, but you didn't. Your parents still love you, but they feel you need a tough love lesson. Your boyfriend should be contributing to the cause also, you didn't say wither or not this was taking place. I do remember my daughter moving out and 'needing money.' She was going out to eat treating her friends on the money she got from m, watching cable TV and seeing movies at the theater while I was home eating beans and fighting with the rabbit ears trying to get good reception. I don't know if you have any brothers or sisters or how your parents are scraping by. I don't think we have the whole story here.
2006-11-01 08:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Confused here: Did your mom kick you out or did she stop having anything to do with u when u got an apartment with your boyfriend. How old is your boyfriend and what does he do. How are you so sure u have a "state job" Stress will cause u to lose sleep but am sure u have slept in the last 9 months. I am glad your boyfriend makes u feel better but is he doing it so u will support him? Would be interested in more details. I am sorry u are in the situation u are in but an older friend always tells me this when things are hard and upsetting to me " Welcome to the Real World". Life isn't easy. If your mom did kick u out WHY? I wish u the best of luck.
2006-11-01 08:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by honest/blonde 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Theres a reason why your mom put you out; your not telling the whole story; also, the 81% of people that live together end up breaking up. If your making pretty good money, why are you broke? Is your boyfriend working? If not he needs to work. I'd talk to my mom and fix that relationship.
If your 18 and your in your senior year in high school that means you'll probably graduate at 19 y/o. Your not telling the whole story I think. Again, swallow your pride, kick butt in school, and be humble.
2006-11-01 08:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should try to find a better job. Something that will give you the hours you need and enough money to get by. Also try to save money in what ever way you can. Do not expect that you can have everything you want right now. Sometimes we have to make sacrifices so keep that in mind as well.
2006-11-01 08:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by green_kiwi18 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You and your boyfriend, assuming you are healthy, can be part of clinical trials.
I suggest phase 1 clinical trials. PPD is a world wide company. They will inform you of any risks that are involved.
You can do the ones that are over the weekend. Study while you are there and spend some time with your boyfriend.
Try and reconcile with your mother, that is also probably what is bothering you too. If you can not speak with her, then write a letter.
Good luck.
2006-11-01 08:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by Myra G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop eating out, quit watching pay movies, cook meals at home, don't buy booze, don't buy smoke, don't lend anyone money, do not support a man. How is that?
One more way to save $ make lots of chicken soup.
2006-11-01 08:28:06 · answer #7 · answered by Valerie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the age of consent is different in most states you need to look up oregon laws
2016-05-23 05:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to relax. Maybe you can ask for a raise.
2006-11-01 08:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by masterurownmind 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋