I just found my birthmother. We've been talking for a little over a month. I have never hid my sexuality from anyone in my family and I don't want to start now. When should I tell my birthmother I'm lesbian. Now? which would be over the phone. Or on Thanksgiving when I meet her in person?
2006-11-01 08:15:14 · 6 answers · asked by Al 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Coming Out is an individual choice for each and every person that comes out and depends on why you want to come out, what that person means to you, and lots of other factors.
Decide why you're telling her... for you or for her?
If she's asking about your personal life... such as who you're dating or interested in, then that may be a reason to tell her.
But in the end, it's totally up to you. Some of us feel better not having any secrets in our lives, especially about who we love.
Check out some of the Coming Out resources listed below. And you may want to purchase "Now That You Know," a great resource for parents and friends of GLBT folks.
The best of luck to you!
2006-11-01 09:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by yetanothergwm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the ideal time would be during the whole 'getting to know each other' stage actually, that way it's comes across more as "this is part of who I am" and there's less risk of it being seen as just showing off your sexuality.
I definately wouldn't do it on Thanksgiving. There's often more than enough drama to go around then anyway, especially if you're meeting most of these people for the first time, so no sense risking even more if she reacts badly.
So that probably means now or soonish, and over the phone.
2006-11-01 16:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by angiekaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should wait until the time is right for you - this is going to be a real personal thing for you that only you will be able to answer. Remember the reaction you get at first can change so over the phone could be difficult. Maybe find some time when you can be/talk alone and when there isn't going to be additional stress around
2006-11-01 16:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by chris_morganuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her in person BUT discuss the general idea before hand, just incase she starts laughing about the "sissy" she and her brothers killed last summer if you know what I mean.
Stay out the closet, whats the bloody point of going back in.
2006-11-01 16:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you meet her in person, that way you can see her reaction and know where to go from there. Good Luck!
2006-11-01 16:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her over the phone cas at thanksgiving she may get mad and disown you also get to know her better then tell her
but what do i know about coming out
its my dirty little secret
2006-11-01 17:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by im lost come and find me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋