My boyfriend and I shared a beautiful love together but after a few months split because although we got along like a house on fire, when we didn't get along we just could not see eye-to-eye and things got nasty. 6 months after our split we are talking again and yes, once again feel in love with one another. He wants me back but I told him that I don't think it will work because we will end up having the same problems as before, that I am devastated and will always love him. Then he emails me back and says....
I guess I expected you to take longer to form a
negative decision, just to be sure your sure, but I
accept that you are
What does his response mean? Is he mad, hurt, angry? I don't understand it.
2006-11-01 08:12:13 · 10 answers · asked by applecheeks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is a mind game and guys want what they don't have. He is trying to show that he has become a rational thinker and emotionally mature. He's also trying to say that your decision is hasty, so he is giving you another chance to change your mind. Follow your gut. You know that the two of you are either great or terrible together, but these combinations aren't compatible. If I were you I'd just email him back and say;
"Thank you for your kind message and consideration, however I've had all the time needed to be certain about our relationship. We are simply not compatible on enough levels to make it work. If you truly care for me, you will accept this as my final word. Best wishes to you. Have a great life and enjoy. We never know what is around the next corner."
If he responds to these words, then just delete it without a response and move on with your life. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Good luck!
2006-11-01 08:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I think you just answered your own question. He's mad and hurt at the same time. He obviously thinks that if you loved him really deep inside you would atleast be a little confused or not sure about what you want to do. This doesn't mean that he's right and your wrong. It just means that this is his perception of things. We all want to feel like were special enough when it comes to a situation like this. He's feeling like he's not important to you like he thought he would be. Just because you came to this desicion so quickly doesn't mean that you don't love him or care for him very deeply. You are just looking at things from a realistic point of view. If you feel like you two will be right back where you started, then by all means do what you have to do and move on with life. I would send him an email back and let him know that it doesn't mean you don't love him, but you are doing what you think is best. However he chooses to take this is his problem. You have to think about your future and your life. Don't worry he'll be alright. If you two are meant to be together then it will happen. If not then it just won't. Either way let him know this and good luck!!!
2006-11-01 17:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to be pitiful and make you feel sorry for him cause he expected you to say ok lets get back together, but you didnt. It shocked him, he still wants to be with you. But whether you go back to him or not is your decision. I would make him wait a little while, just to let it sink in. Good luck!
2006-11-01 16:16:58 · answer #3 · answered by bryfillicetti 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a passive response. It's like empty calories.
He is attempting to get a response to maintain contact. That statement has 2 intentions. 1.Guilt trip; "I guess/negative decision". 2.Saving face; acting as if he really accepts your answer of no.
p.s.
(you're not your)
2006-11-01 16:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by Dom Tuaca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like he is thinking that you don't want to live with him again, or that you don't want to be with him. You need to sit with him and tell him what you are really feeling inside. Be honest and up front with him,.
2006-11-01 16:16:25 · answer #5 · answered by Shauny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thought you would take longer to think about it, before you answered, and yes he's hurt.
2006-11-01 16:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by Gaia Weeps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems like he has let you go I dont think it means much more than that
2006-11-01 16:16:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means hes most likely sleeping with other girls and he wants to know cause hes a pimp!
2006-11-01 16:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by hunter 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you care??? Get over it and move on.
2006-11-01 16:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means that he wants to break up woth you
2006-11-01 16:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋