It seems love making is hard because i am never in the mood...any advice? we have been married 10 months we are 21.. and both virgins.. when we got married..
2006-11-01 08:07:32 · 14 answers · asked by chosen_isaiah61 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will learn to like it. Because you are both inexperienced, you may not know exactly what you are doing. Make sure that you have him take as much time as you need (foreplay) to prepare yourself for an enjoyable experience. Do not just jump right into it. If he is doing something you do not like, tell him. If he is doing something that you do like, tell him that, as well. A man can be very easy to please, a woman can take time. Keep at it. You will eventually love it.
2006-11-01 08:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never make him happy unless you unleash your sexual self. It sounds bad, but men are not entirely happy about how important sex is either. It's like being so hungry that you get a headache and can't think... live like that every day and see if you want to stay doing that.
As far as what you can do... its all up to you. You have to excersize more. That will raise your testosterone, you have to masturbate often... the more you do it the more you will want it.
I've read alot of studies that show that women who masturbate are happier with sex and want it more often... if you dont use it you loose it.
Remember this! If you don't meet his needs and someone who will comes along... are you going to assume a starving man wont eventually weaken and 'eat'??? Are those odds you are willing to bet on?
What if he only worked once a week and said he would work more but his desire is low and he just isn't in the mood anymore... would you put up with that? Hell no!!!! so why should he put up with it???
2006-11-01 17:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by Mindlessfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you..having only been married 10 months and you are already not in the mood....you guys have a long road ahead of you.....Find something that turns you on like watching a movie or looking a pictures in an adult book or reading a sexy romance novel.....Those type of things put me in the mood even when I don't think I am....
2006-11-01 16:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You made a decision to wait until you were married before finding out if you were sexually compatible. Some would applaud you and others will shake their head. Assuming you are both healthy, I would advise seeing a marriage councilor to determine why you are never "in the mood".
2006-11-01 16:15:37 · answer #4 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone goes through a time when there not in the mood. Try to think of something fun and exciting that will get you in the mood.
2006-11-01 16:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by Shauny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is one of the most important things about marriage. Most marriages turn in seperations because the male or female cheat on their spouse. If you are never in the mood, then tell him what you like. My women wants sex all the time because I cared to ask what she likes.
2006-11-01 16:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by getalong 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trouble in the bedroom after 10 months? That usually doesn't set in for a while or after having kids. Don't think about it, just let it happen. Or if you need more stimulation, think about it, how it would be, how you want it, what you want him to do to you. Then when he gets home from work, jump him. Good luck :)
2006-11-01 16:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by metallicachic82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem, you just need to find something that excites the both of you. Don't be afraid to explore other things. Maybe go to one of those Adult store websites and look through it together and see if you guys agree on trying something. It will make your relationship even better if you both learn to enjoy your sex life.
2006-11-01 16:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by ld123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone, look at adult websites or videos. Try new things, or if this still doesnt put you in the mood, just forget about your mood and do it anyways and youll thank yourself afterward or even during!!! =)
2006-11-01 16:16:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you never in the mood? Are you still nervous about it? You're going to have to get over that. Sex does play a role in marriage. Maybe go see a sex therapist.
2006-11-01 16:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by TripleTattoo™ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋