When we first started dating, D.H. and I discussed our thoughts on marriage and weddings. Until I received the revelation that he was my husband I did not believe in marriage. Marriage, to me is a misconception. I did not want to be married to anyone. I wanted a commitment. My best friend at the time told me that I was crazy, “marriage is a commitment, Shani.” But I still had to beg to differ. It is sad to say that we live in a society where people can remember exactly how much they spent on their wedding dresses, what type of cake they ate, what their bridesmaids wore, but they can not tell you their wedding vows.
Marriage is about relationship. The key to making it work is communication. People grow and change everyday, even when they don’t see it, and if you are constantly working on your relationship, you will get lost and one of you will have grown in one direction and the other person in the other direction. Am I wrong?
2006-11-01 08:03:19 · 4 answers · asked by Shanigirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-11-01 08:06:31 · update #1
Marriage is the ultimate commitment and should not be taken lightly.
It is God's greatest gift that a man and a woman can share.
Yes, you will grow and change, just as you have all of your life, but if there is real love and commitment, those changes will strengthen you TOWARDS each other and not away.
If your bonds are in the will of God, you will see happiness with your mate, but if it was out of lust, there will be division.
You need to know who you are; who you are married to; and most importantly...who brought you together and why.
GOD ORDAINS IT AND SUSTAINS IT! You simply need to walk (and work) in it...God bless
2006-11-01 08:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes! you are so right, marriage is a way to say you want to spend the rest of your life with your mate of choice and that decision should always be made with respect to maturity and responsibility. The problem why divorce occurs is because one or the other was not really ready to spend the rest of their life with that person and they have not found destiny in life. They now have a desire for things they haven't experienced while being married. I think that some people just want that new flirting feeling and sex is abundant in a newer relationship, I think that some of us are attracted to that feeling and want it a lot more when they haven't had it in a while.
2006-11-01 18:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a commitment to that one person u love and gave your vows to. U are both meant to live by those vows everyday for the rest of your married lives together....not when u feel like it.
Yes people change, but the vows u gave to each other and your commitment for one another should stay constant, no matter what life throws your way.
2006-11-01 16:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, come by and see my blog! I was custom made for my DH. Marriage takes work, and LOTS of it. I've been on this roller coaster for 14 years. Some days I'm ready to get off, but I remember my vows, and hang on. I promised before my family and GOD that I would stick by my man. Period.
2006-11-01 16:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋