what would you do if you lost a child?

Question

the reason i ask this question is because i reasently had a miscarriage and it was a really hard thing to go through especially at the age of 16 so for all of you out there who think i want a baby because they are so sweet and which they are take my advice and try to wait because it can cause you alot of pain in your life an your partners
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Answer 1

I'm still trying to get over it. I lost my child nearly 4 years ago. He would have been 3 years old at the end of November. I got pregnant soon after my miscarriage. My daughter is now 2 1/2. She brings my joy but there are still times that I think "what might have been." The pain never goes completely away but it does dull. Hang in there girl and I'm sorry for the loss of your child.

Answer 2

sweetie i know how u feel, i was 17, when i had a type of a miscarriage, it actually haunts me everyday, b/c i just recently turned 18. its very hard, i will have my moments when i am happy, then i go into a state of depression and cry all day, especially b/c i was goin on my 5th month when it happened, planning my baby shower and i had already bought alot of baby items. So i can honestly tell u, u cant do anything sweetheart, just live day by day and be around people who love and care about u deeply. I a sooooo sorry! If u need anythig, just email me @ [e-mail], or my myspace it [e-mail]. Sorry again sweetie. Always, Maria

Answer 3

For starters, although I am sorry you lost the child, perhaps it was a mixed blessing. At 16, you are frankly too young to appreciate the tremendous responsibility involved, even if you might think otherwise. A baby isn't like a doll that you can take out, play with and put back on a shelf. It is a 24 hour a day, 7 day a week commitment for at least the next 18 years of your life. You are still a child yourself. Wait until you are older and have learned about life and responsibility before even considering having a child. And if you insist on remaining sexually active ( I hope you don't), at least use birth control. Please.

Answer 4

You take things day by day and learn how to grieve and still be responsible for everyday life. It's hard. I lost a son at 16 weeks and it was and is still really hard. But the thing is, I woke up one day not to long ago and realized I didn't cry the day before, and that makes it better. I'll never forget him, even though he's not here physically, he's still my baby boy, just like your baby will always be with you. I'm so sorry for your loss, but grieve, take the time to grieve. It's better to have a hard grieving process at first than to have it come back and kick you in the butt later. Good luck, and remember what I said, you'll realize one day that you didn't cry the day before, you'll never "get over it" and you should slap anyone who tells you too, but you will learn how to cope with it.

Answer 5

Counseling. That is the best thing for you. Go to a church member, your parents or school counselor. Your body is going to go through a lot of changes in the next few weeks. Be sure to keep up with any follow up appointments with your doctor and rest as much as you can. If your partner is still with you (I say that because many teen boys run when their girl is pregnant) be sure to talk with him as he lost a child too. Let others know you need to talk about it, if you keep it bottled up, it will only make matters worse. Hugs to you and be careful sweetie, you're right, having a baby isn't easy.

Answer 6

So sorry to hear that. There are support groups that can help with the pain. I lost 2 children, through inutero-misscarriage. Which means I lost the kids in the 2nd & 3rd trimester. The support groups helped alot. Call a crisis center in your area and get the number.

Answer 7

I think that you need time to grieve the loss of that child and be thankful because you are so young. Yes babies are sweet, I have had 2, but they are also very hard work. I think that you should take this as a blessing and wait longer to try for the next one!

Answer 8

I feel your pain..I have lost 2 babies..One at 5 and a half months and at 9 weeks..It is very hard and can cause alot of stress in couples..I pray for you and hope that all goes well in your future pregnancies...
Good Luck :)

Answer 9

I can relate in a different way - I've never been able to have children of my own. My husband and I went through ten years of trying to adopt. We got close on three different occasions, but it never went through.

After 27 years of marriage I still have "empty arms". It gets better with time, but we sure went through a lot of hurt and disappointment through the years.

I guess God didn't mean for us to have children...we have each other.

Find someone that is good to you and that you feel loves you.

Answer 10

I'm very sorry for your loss. I don't know what I'd do if anything happened to my children. Waiting is a good idea. You're young and you have plenty of "growing up" to do. Just because you're young, doesn't make it hurt any less, but everything happens for a reason. Again, I'm sorry for your loss.