I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago. We were together 4 years. I don't regret my decision. I thought he had feeling for a woman who was "just a friend" even though he denied it. Turns out my instincts were right because 3 weeks after I broke up with him, she dumped her boyfriend & they're now together. At first, I was okay with everything. My ex moved his things out of my apt, I was going out and having fun by myself or with my friends, I even kept in touch with my ex a little. This past week or so has turned into a nightmare. I barely get up. I'm missing hours at work. My heart is aching inside. I started getting sick & went to the doctor yesterday. He said that I'm way too stressed out. And then I came home to my lonely apt, with no one to take care of me. What the hell happened? I was doing so well. How do I start feeling better when I can't peel myself out of bed? I know other people have been through this. How did you deal? I don't want my ex back, but I'm so sad it's over.
2006-11-01 07:52:44 · 4 answers · asked by ☆skyblue 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Time will heal your heart ache.
Maybe having a pet will help, my birds give me a lot of responsibility and I love them and they love me back.
Try meeting new men, just as friends or a relationship, flirting always helps.
Exercise, it will build confidence and let you gain more exercise and you can take out your frustration on the track!
Reminisce on your memories, and try to see it from another point of view, lets say your parents.
Good luck and hang in there!
2006-11-01 07:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by Myra G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what happened was that in the beginning when you were hanging out with your friends and were having fun by yourself, it was your way of staying occupied so that you didn't have to think about the break-up and deal with it at that time. But now that some time has passed, your true feelings are coming thru and it is now that you are truly affected by the break up. The best thing to do now is accept it. Cry a lot....write your feelings down in a journal....take some time for yourself and allow yourself to get over this break-up now that your body, heart and mind is telling you that it is time for you to deal with it. There is no avoiding it.
I know it is hard but if you don't deal with it now and surpress it even more it only is going to hurt you even more in the long run. The feelings and emotions that you are going thru now are pretty normal. You will feel a lot better in a little while. :)
2006-11-01 16:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thoughts, you need to get out and do stuff to forget about the whole thing. Join some clubs, do some fun activities, hang out with friends. Just forget about it all. You cant change what happened but you can make the best with what you have now.
Take pride in the fact that you are now free and have NO rules to follow but your own. If you want to throw your undies on the floor in the middle of the kitchen thats your problem now and no ones elses.lol.
2006-11-01 16:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by acezr2wild 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it takes a while, just hang out with friends. do something new, like get a new hobby or sports. Rearrange things in your apartment. If you can move out, find a new place or move to another town. Go on a trip. I know how it feels, its like there is a big huge load inyour heart, so heavy. Watch a lot of comedy movies or just grab ben and jerry. goodluck!
2006-11-01 16:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋