Okay, maybe not. But maybe Bi? Here's why. I have only ever been with men, and I love it. I love everything about it. The way they make me feel, the way they smell, EVERYTHING. But when I fantasize, it's ALWAYS about being with a girl. I don't think i've ever NOT fantasized about being with a girl, or doing things to a girl. If i watch porn, it's all girl. But if i'm just sitting here, in my everyday normal life, thinking about being with a girl grosses me out. Like, I dont check out girls at the mall, or if I see a pretty girl the last think i would think about would be sex, and it usually disgusts me. I'd like to try it with a girl, just to see exactly what's going on in my head, but I don't know how to go about it.
2006-11-01 07:50:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you like being with men, you aren't a lesbian. People fantasize about all kinds of things during sex that might not necessarily turn them on outside of sex. I'm a lesbian but I like to watch straight porn. I think it really boils down to when you are having sex who are you having sex with. If you're curious, try it out. You could be disgusted by the thought because you are actually straight (I know I'm disgusted thinking about sex w/ guys in a normal situation - no offense guys!) but it also could be society's pressure on you to be "normal" or your desire to be normal in which case you could be bi. But if you enjoy being in relationships with a guy and you enjoy sleeping with guys then you are probably straight or bi, definitely not a lesbian. Sexuality is fluid and on a long continuum. I think it makes it confusing to dichotomize it. In my opinion it sounds like you're straight with kinky fantasies... that's all.
2006-11-01 08:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by Des Demona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may well be a lesbian. I am a guy and from a 'social' standpoint I was brought up with gay being SOOOO unacceptable and humiliating. As it is I am surely hetero but as this applies to you it is possible you are so programmed towards guys because hetero is 'normal' and a man (supposedly) will take care of you and all... that perhaps your behavioral mode wont allow you to explore deeper feelings toward women beyond the sex.
I cant speak for a woman and not everyone agrees with me on this point but I do NOT believe there is any such thing as a bisexual man. If you like men and participate sexually then you are GAY for the stay regardless if you are married or whatever. the 'bi' part is the homophobia and denial... a guy does a guy he is GAY.
2006-11-01 07:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by larry s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Megan, you might not be a lesbian or bi period. You might just get turned on by the idea of the unknownn... Sometimes when we find out what the unknow is really like its no longer a turn on and just disappointment... Your mind is a beautiful place of imagination and fantasy now that is exciting.. More that half of us fantasize about something other and our partners, before, during and by our selves. So have no worries, see if your man will role play with you...
2006-11-01 07:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're Bi-Curious. If you're looking to try anything with a girl, it needs to be someone you trust. I suggest www.adultfriendfinder.com . Make friends with someone first, and see where it goes from there.
2006-11-01 07:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I fantasize about being with women too, orcourse its always as a man (unless they are pleasuring me - a mouth is a mouth).
Perhaps or you are like a lot of woman who are stimulated by female beauty.
Go to a swingers club or try a gay bar OR...
2006-11-01 08:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ultimately you are the only one that can figure that out. Sounds like you're bi-curious.
2006-11-01 08:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
*** see me, we will figure it out together!
My boyfriend is a lesbian trapped in a mans body, and I am a gay man trapped in a womans body, perhaps the 3 of us together can put it all out in a straight line!
2006-11-01 07:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by naughty toddy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that you are a lesbian, I think that you are just curious. You should try experimenting, see where it goes from there.
2006-11-01 08:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by MEYost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your curious ma its ok to be like that i could help you with that lol
2006-11-01 07:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by sexylilles 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bi-curious
2006-11-01 07:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by Diamond in the Rough 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋