My friend has been pesturing me for like the last one and a half months to leave my bf alone because she thinks he's playing me and i told her we broke up so she would just drop the situation but i love him too much to deny him so i just told her the truth we still go out and she was 38 hot about it she started using profane language and saying i was a fool and that he was just playing me she even insisted on me going out with his friend so what would you think of your friend if you were in my situation and what would you tell her? Is she trying to protect me from getting hurt? or does she just want him for herself?
2006-11-01 07:46:46 · 14 answers · asked by Sexytaurusaka305 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your friend is a "blocker". Better to have friends that are "helpers" (there must be at least a couple dozen of these somewhere on the planet for you--smile).
2006-11-01 07:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if this is one of your first relationships, sometimes you've got to go through the bad to come across the good. You're only young so there is no need to be thinking that far ahead into your relationship, as he might change his mind about his future and weather or not he wants kids and so might you. Give him a chance, he makes you happy, thats all that matters, and you make him happy. Its not the perfect realtionship but just go with it and have a good summer with him, if you still feel pressured and feel that he's still not getting better with the romance side of your relationship then maybe you should re-think some things, but in my opinion - you're head over heels for him, so why inflict heart-ache on yourself when there is no need to. As with your family not liking him, that can always be resolved, you can talk to them and sort things out, expain that you like him and are happy, this should be enough for them to at least accept him into the family some how. And with your boyfriend, you can talk to him, he might not be the sort of guy to openly show his feelings, but like you said, he says that you make him happy, cherish the times he says that. If not talk to him about it and drop little hints to him, show that you aren't happy with the non-romantic side of things, don't be afraid to say that, you've got to feel comfortable with him to say how you feel. Sorry for the essay, hope i've helped some how, best of luck x
2016-05-23 04:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she know somethings about him that you don't? If she is really your friend I would sit down and talk to her about why she truely feels that he is playing you. If she refuses to talk with you about it then she's not really your friend and probably does have something for this guy. True friends will try to protect you from getting hurt, but not at the expense of hurting you to get what they want. Talk to her and find out what's really going on. You'll get your answer either way. Have you also talked to your boyfriend about this situation? Maybe find out from him why he thinks she feels that way...you may learn a lot about him by his answers or reactions. good luck.
2006-11-01 07:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by chickypie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at it from her perspective and see if there are any reasons she would think this...she really could just be trying to do what she thinks is best for you. there is always the possibility of jealousy, but who knows. do you take all the time you used to spend with her to spend time with him? and is he protective or does he bail out on you a lot? i understand why you are upset, and I would be too. really try to talk to her and ask what it all is that makes her think hes a cheater. a true friend will be happy for you if you are happy in a strong, healthy relationship. good luck!
2006-11-01 07:52:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody always wants to jump to the conclusion that shes jealous or wants him for herself. Is it possible she just cares about you and doesn't want you to be used ? Is he playing you ? Is she right or is she just making things up ? If she's right then its probably because she cares about you. Just give that side a thought.
2006-11-01 07:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be one of 3 things:
1: misery loves company. she sees u with a man and shes jealous.
2: she's trying to protect u from getting hurt.
3: she likes him herself but wont tell u.
decide for yourself ma.
2006-11-01 07:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by sierra r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get a life and stop hating on you. If you are happy then if she is a real friend she will be happy for you too. Bottom line.
2006-11-01 07:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by gentlgodis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you do not want to hear anything else she has to say about your relationship with him and to back off. Especially if she doesnt have proof, which if she did she would have produced. Tell her she needs to respect your decision to be with him EVEN if she disagrees with the relationship..after all...THATS what friends are for.
2006-11-01 08:06:24 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like she slept with him, or really wants him. Maybe he even told her they can be together when ya'lll break up! Cut her off, friends are supposed to lend an ear, not make your dicisions for you!
2006-11-01 07:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it depends, i don't know about your bf? you forgot to tell me about your bf, is he violent, calling you names, drug addict, using you to get some money etc... if does i think your friend is just protecting and caring about you. If not, maybe she is jealous. your lucky if you have friends like that, some friends they just keep quite about things that you should know about. Just talk to her and find out. goodluck!
2006-11-01 07:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋