I am 17 and my boyfriend is 18 we are planning to have sex this weekend and we both got tested and we don't have anythig he wants to F@#$ without a condom because he wants me to have his baby what should i do do you think its wrong forme to take birth control behind his back?
2006-11-01 07:45:50 · 11 answers · asked by mz_hatch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You answered your own question. You seem to want to do the right thing by your boyfriend, but what about whats right for you? You are only 17 and have your whole life in front of you. Something is wrong with him for have asked that of you. He is still very young himself and has his whole life in front of him too. You should never do something that you don't want to do. A baby is a wonderful thing, but a very big responsibility. Do you want this? Are you ready for this responsibilty? Is he? Will he even be around? Ask yourself all of these questions and some more on top of that. You taking birth control is the best thing for you! Also, birth control is not 100% effective. Be careful, you are young, and he seems to think that he has the right to decide for you. I would consider dating someone who actually cared about you. Good luck and stick to your gut feeeling. Birth control got its name for a reason.
2006-11-01 08:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At your age... nope... I don't think it's wrong to use birth control behind your boyfriends back. Trust me... you do not need to have a baby at 17 years old! Although I would have to argue that you should still be practicing abstinence... I'll try to be realistic about your situation and advise that you DEFINITELY use contraception EVERY time you have sex with your boyfriend.
2006-11-01 15:49:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is never the decision of just one person. This guy sounds controlling and manipulative. Please save yourself the headache and don't have sex with him at all, and find someone that cares about you and your wishes. At worst, PLEASE take birth control because as the gent above said, the last thing you need is to be 17, single and have a baby.
2006-11-01 15:48:02 · answer #3 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do.....dont have sex without a condom....
Youre only 17 yrs old.....thats so young to have a child.....ask any young female who has had a child....Its so hard..
this is coming from a female who has a 3yr old....i had my first child with my boyfriend of 7yrs when i was 19.....after a child....there no more worrying about you....its all about that child and what you are both gonna do for that child....its hard to grow up fast...especially when youre trying to raise a child....Think...because the decision will change your life forever. Good luck!
2006-11-01 15:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jackeeeee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOPE! No matter what, you come first!
Let me ask you this: What the hell do y'all need with a baby at 17 & 18! Girl use your head for more than a hat rest, that boy don't love you because if he did he wouldn't be trying to pressure you into something YOU know is wrong!
2006-11-01 15:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by TruDiva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are too young to have a child, so is he... Use every precaution not to get pregnant... He may want you to have his baby, but there is never a guarantee that he will be there for you and your baby.... Wait until both of you are much older...
I would let him know.. If he truly cares about you, he will not get upset... If he does. Then that's too bad for him.. You need to do what's right for you... You need to concentrate in education and making sure you are stable enough to take care of the baby...
Good Luck!
2006-11-01 16:07:53 · answer #6 · answered by Torres 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take birth control. The last thing you need is to be pregnant, single and 17.
2006-11-01 15:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by tumbleweed1954 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your body. If you don't want a child at this time, take birth control. If you aren't ready for a child, he shouldn't be forcing the issue - why does he want one so badly? He should consider your feelings on this matter first.
2006-11-01 15:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wants you to have his baby before you both are married or in a postion to have kids, then he does not care about what is in your best interest, and do NOT let this man touch you! He is not responsible and you should get away from him now.........I'm not being rude, I'm just telling you the truth. Save yourself girl!
2006-11-01 15:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to take a hike!!!!
First of all.. its illeagle for you two to have sex.
second. he wants you to have a baby out of wedlock
third. he wants you to have a baby before you are 18
forth... I could go on.. but you just need to dump him!!!!
2006-11-01 15:53:02 · answer #10 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋