Was I wrong to discipline my wife this way? She wouldn't quit whining about..?

Question

I parked in the grocery store parking lot and gave my wife 80 dollars in cash to get some groceries. Basically, I was dropping her off and then I was going to go to the electronics store to check out some HDTV's while she was shopping. She had a list of things to get and when she got out she asked if I wouldn't mind if she bought a 2 liter Sprite. I told her, "Not today sweetheart". Then she asked why and I told her that I wanted her on a diet so she could continue to be my barbie girl (thin). Anyways, I had let her have a Sprite two weeks before. She started pleading and saying "please" and I said "no sweetie" (lovingly). Then she said "you never let me do anything fun". And I told her that wasn't true and she needed to stop creating a scene. She then stuck her tongue out at me. I know she was playing but that was it. i got out of the car, put her over the hood and spanked her. She embarassed me so I thought that might teach her how it feels, you know?

Well, after that she said she was sorry and went into the grocery store and I drove to the electronics store but some lady who saw the thing told her that I was wrong to do that!?!? Is this true?!?

Hey, you guys need to understand my wife is 26, not 8 years old. I mean she was acting like a little girl.

Answer 1

Dude I know where you are coming from I have a large wooden paddle i keep in the 69 Ford pick up Just for those occasions when my wife wants to act up. I also keep several around the house always one within reach

Answer 2

I think you know that it was wrong, and you are looking for us to tell you it was okay to physically abuse your wife. Where in the hell is DFCS when they are needed. If you discipline your child by throwing them on the hood of your car and spank them they could get taken away so why do that to your wife, that shows your lack of respect for her and her feelings. The fact that you wouldn't let her have a soda does not bother me, unlike others that answered. I think that sometimes if it's hard for you to practice restraint then your God given partner should be there to help you. Maybe just maybe she asked you to help her stick to her diet. I also don't think it's wrong to have an idea of what your mate should be like and share it with your partner. I do believe that you should love that person even if they fail to attain or maintain your standards. After all we live in the age of media influence and being thin is important to both men and women, and is a reason for people cheating on their spouse. You need to realize that you cannot hit a person simply because they angered you. That is something that we teach or children not something that a grown married man should have to learn. Good luck on finding help. You are in my prayers.

Answer 3

First of all, you would be missing two important parts(you know what I mean), if you had done that to me. Would you want her doing that to you in public? And if your wife wants a f**king Sprite, then she will get one. You are right, she is 25 or 26, not 8.....you moron! If I were her, I would buy you a blow-up doll, they don't gain weight or stick their tongues out playfully. You are a D**K. I cannot even believe that you came on here asking that question, you must be wanting alot of attention...spanking your wife, then confessing it on here. MORON! Go ahead and report me if you must, it will just show how much of a man you really are.

Answer 4

1. Your wife is your equal. You do not discipline your equal. Discipline is for kids and pets. Change your attitude toward her or do her a favor and get lost

2. Why on earth does she need to get your permission to buy a bottle of sprite? If you think she needs to get your permission for what food she buys you need to change your attitude toward her or do her a favor and get lost.

3. You do not decide when someone else needs a diet nor do you decide what that diet should be. Change your attitude about that idea or do her a favor and get lost

4. You want a Barbie girl? Expect a child.

5. Spanking her is abuse.

6. Just do her a favor and get lost

Answer 5

Maybe you need to understand that your wife is 26 not 8 years old, you are a terrible terrible person, you have no right to first off deny her of anything she wants, unless it is unrealistic, but a sprite, or a diet coke like it was in your last question is wrong and disturbing, please grow up and stop being so controlling, she is a person too, and I don't even know why she stays with you, you are a disgusting pig. get some help

Answer 6

Are you donig without sodas too? Both of you have a lot of growing up to do, but you are a piece of work and a control freak. Give her the money and let her do the grocery shopping. Go with her if you want to have an input on what is bought - otherwise, keep your trap shut!

Answer 7

Your wife may have been acting immature, but YOU, sir, are a control freak! No man "disciplines" his wife. He has too much respect for her to act like her parent. She is his EQUAL these days. You decide what she'll buy???? Where is her right to choose what she will or will not purchase? You are a terrible husband and deserve to be divorced. Sorry, that's the way I see it and I've been happily married for 43 year to my husband and we are equal partners in this venture called marriage. You don't have a clue as to what marriage is about, do you? If your wife had the guts she should have called the police and had you arrested for "assault". She was within her rights.

Answer 8

I think you are the one that needs to realize that she is 26 and not 8. She is your wife. Not your child. You don't have the right to control her every movement. And a drink of sprite is not going to make her fat.
I would leave you if I were in her position.

Answer 9

Well Buster Brown, you have some serious issues to deal with here and there not your wife's.
To start with you beat your wife, in most States that's illegal and you could get jail time for it.
The second place is this controlling attitude of yours, you need some time off for counseling, so does your wife for taking this stuff.

Where do you get off making her "beg" for something and to tell her how much she should weigh and how you "want" her.

I seriously suggest you both get some consoling.

Answer 10

WTF? you have GOT to be kidding me. It sounds to me like you want your wife as something fake instead of something real. you treat her like she is five years old and so she is going to act like she is five years old. you want your wife to stay thin. what about what she wants? YOU created that scene, not her. Serves you right that you were embarassed by her behaviour since you treat her like she doesn't have a mind of her own. What you did was do nothing but create hostility and resentment towards you from your wife. she is a human being. a PERSON. not some toy or some thing that you own to control. She may be even sneaking some candy and extra sugar behind your back just to serve you right. so to answer your question...yes you were wrong in trying to discipline your wife...oops i meant your child...that way.