I cant help but wonder if its to soon for me to be in love again. I am not even completely divorced yet, in the process, but not complete yet. I wasnt even looking for a relationship when I met the guy I am with now it just happened. I fell head over heals for this guy the moment I saw him. Does this mean I never really loved my ex-husband? I just dont know. I am really confused, but I do know when I am in love, it doesnt happen everyday. So tell me what you think. Is it too soon to be in love again?
2006-11-01 07:34:07 · 14 answers · asked by bryfillicetti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no its never to late, or to soon, but it could be a whole bunch of mixed emotions running through your mind and heart. slow down take the time to discover who you are before leaping head first into the next situation. the fact that you fell head over heals so fast, may be because he is everything your husband wasn't. first impressions can be deceiving, so slow down don't rush it, take it one day at a time, don't discuss any long term plans until after the divorce has been finalized. you could be running right from the dead coals into a hot fire. those on the rebound have a tendency to fall hard and fast only to have it fade. you by rushing forward may be hurting him in the long run more then you can understand. i know i was in that situation, and the lady ended up saying to me i love you but i don't love you. slow down take your time, make sure what you feel is real. not what you imagine in your heart and mind. g l
2006-11-01 07:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it doesn't really matter if you're formally divorced... Nowadays, divorce can take months or years, and no one can be expected to sit around and put their whole life on hold. You didin't mention the actual length of time you've been single; I'd guess that if it's not a very long time (like a month), then the new "love" is very likely to be a rebound. I also can't make any guesses about what your relationship with your soon-to-be-ex husband was like, and what it is like now. Just because you fell in love again doesn't invalidate any former loves or attachments you might have experienced in your life; we can fall in love many times over the course of our lives. However, when we break up with someone we were attached to, a void is created that begs to be filled, and it is often filled with the first more-or-less suitable attachment that comes along. It may or may not be the case with you - but it does happen more often than not.
2006-11-01 07:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is ever really too soon to be in love. Just because you have these feelings for someone else doesn't mean that you are not giving your ex enough time. I think that you should also stop and look at the big picture, think about how you guys came to the point of getting divorced and how you met this new guy and make sure that you are also not just vulnerable and on the rebound. But if you are truley in love then there is nothing that you can do to stop how you feel
2006-11-01 07:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by TNL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone can tell you that. You could be rebounding, or you could be truly in love. Only time will tell. Just make sure you take your time, and by all means take some time for you. Make sure you know what you want and need in a relationship. As hard as it is to go through the agony of letting someone go, we all have to - it's part of the healing process. Make sure your new guy is not just numbing that pain for you. And heck if you are truly in love, good for you :)
2006-11-01 07:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not too early. I fell in love the same way - completely. I know that I needed my ex, but I did not really love him. I wanted my white picket fence and neat little life. The new man is the love of my life. I have no reservations about this. It is forever - for both of us.
Just make sure that it is mutual or you will be hurt tremendously. You feelings are no doubt very raw still and you do need to be careful of your heart.
2006-11-01 09:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's too soon as long as you weren't looking for love. It happened spotaneously and is most likely a sign that things are going to get better and you will be happier. Since it happened out of the blue, it's never too soon. As long as you weren't searching for someone to replace your ex.
2006-11-01 07:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...in fact...I was in the same situation and we are getting married on Saturday. I wasn't looking for it, it just sort of happened. You and your heart know when you are in love. It doesn't mean that you didn't love your husband...you just fell out of love.
2006-11-01 07:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by prettyflowertattoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its never to soon to be in love
2006-11-01 07:36:05 · answer #8 · answered by hottie22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful you sound as if your on the rebound and could get hurt or hurt the guy your with
2006-11-01 07:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you fall in love, you fall in love........I don't think there is any certain timetable to go by. Good luck, and take your time to make sure you are really in love and not just infatuated.
2006-11-01 07:37:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋