my friend, i'll call her mary. mary's friend just died, and all i could say was "i'm so sorry". im looking to say more but can't find the words since i didn't know she even knew the person i just want to help make her feel better. and there are some problems between us so i can't just go over and comfort her.
is there anything i can do from where i am now to help her out?
2006-11-01 07:15:31 · 11 answers · asked by sh8dybrady120 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I just lost my dad about 4 months ago. So my perspective the best thing for me during that time was just having someone there or a phone call just to let me know you were thinking about me. I really did not want to hear the "your in my thoughts and prayers" thing but I rather hear a phone call from someone bitching about a problem we both had in common -not death related (a friend that got on our nerves at times). Because it comes a time during moarning when all the visits and the well wishes die away and you just want stable company.
2006-11-01 07:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by kreemnpeechez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant hold her and tell her to cry? I am in a situation that if anything would happen to my daughter's bf we have no contact info really...ok, look over sympathy cards and put a meaningful note inside like...I know she was a close friend of yours and want to be supportive so...How about getting a spray of flowers and putting Mary's name on the card, it will be delivered to the funeral home and placed accordingly. If she is interested, she will investigate. I know for years, someone has been placing violets on my dad's grave and we have yet to find out who or when but the thought counts and yes I have continually asked around and got some insight but no answers...I hope this info helps and keep your distance for whatever reasons...another idea would be to get a book that she would like and donate it to local library in Mary's name
2006-11-01 15:30:34 · answer #2 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In high school, I lost a friend and recently this year we lost my mother-in-law. During this time, your friend (Mary) has heard many "I'm sorry's." She knows everyone means well, but there aren't any words that can help. Pray for her during this time and let her know that you understand nothing you say can help her, but you wanted her to know that you're there for her if she needs to talk or cry. It'll mean more to her during this time.
2006-11-01 15:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a card, It is always akward, because verbally, all you can say is "I'm sorry". Send a card to let her know that you will be there for her whenever she needs to talk. An offering of friendship really means alot to people and she will know that you are there for her to lean on. She will feel better knowing that she has someone to count on.
2006-11-01 15:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by lion75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send Mary a card, Say Mary, I just want to express my sympathy, You are in my prayers. and sign your name. Or you can buy her a plant, and a card. But I think a card will be just fine!
2006-11-01 15:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a flower delivered to her, with a note attached letting her know how you feel.
2006-11-01 15:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say that you are there for her, and ignore whatever problems you guys have. If she is really hurting, she doesnt need more problems.
2006-11-01 15:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by angie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know your their for her if she needs to talk. Send her some flowers or a gift basket.
2006-11-01 15:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no unless u sort out ur problems first
2006-11-01 15:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. pray. It really works!
2006-11-01 15:17:22 · answer #10 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋