ive had a friend since childhood weve grown up 2gether but i never knew he was gay till now. he's told me hes fallin' in love with me and has been making some moves. i feel for him and dont want 2 break his heart what do i do?
2006-11-01 07:10:38 · 9 answers · asked by obino 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If your not gay, you simply tell him. He'll be hurt, but he should know the truth.
2006-11-01 07:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well...if you arent gay or attracted to him not at all, then just tell him that you cant feel the same way, but you still want to be friends, although he might not be, i mean think about it, he is in love with you and you say no, but your still there, that could be hard for him, and on the other hand, if you do have even the littlest if feelings for him, and just to let you know, you dont have to be gay to have feelings toward him, then i would say ast on it, you two would be happy together! just try putting yourself in his position.
2006-11-01 15:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by p3mk13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any close feelings toward this guy at all? If so, I would regroup and think things over again. If you're absolutely sure you're not gay, tell the guy gently. It will probably break his heart, but if you can still be his friend, do so.
2006-11-01 15:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by SuperCityRob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest, and let him know that you just don't feel that way about guys. That's really all you can do... it may hurt him, but he'll find someone who can return his feelings sooner if he knows that you can't, and hopefully you can stay friends.
2006-11-01 15:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by angiekaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit down and talk to him. Tell him how you feel and explian there is the right person out there for him but that right person is just not you!
2006-11-01 15:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by cartoonhero55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same as if a female friend started falling in love with you, but you weren't interested in her in that way.
Be honest, but gentle. (And always remember that friendship is a form of love)
2006-11-02 01:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Gizensha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are still good mates and his secret is safe with you.
Also tell him you will go with him to bars and stuff to help him find a good partner.
2006-11-01 17:44:18 · answer #7 · answered by SunGod 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't break a heart - no bones there.
2006-11-01 15:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't need him.
2006-11-01 15:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋