I've been with my man for almost 3 years and it has been a long hard road and he has hurt me alot but every time I come back, I do love him and believe he can change, He has a good heart and was brought up in a good family with good morals and things have gotten better, but he still lies to me. Most of the time he is lieing so he doesn hurt anyone, but a lie is still a lie. He has now, after I have left once again, face to face admitted he has a problem, is there help for us?
2006-11-01 07:09:39 · 11 answers · asked by littlebit02 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is always help but he has to be willing to want to change, otherwise all the therapy and counseling in the world is not going to help him.
2006-11-01 07:14:40 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many individuals are more likely to lie when romantic partners or spouses...
ask a lot of pointed questions
have issues with intimacy (need a lot of space or crave intimacy)
set unrealistic expectations
react poorly to the truth
have too much power
have been caught lying
On the other hand he may be pathological liar which is a non-clinical term for a person who intentionally provides untrue accounts, often not to hide or gain anything in particular. This is different from a person who lies, yet believes them, which is known as confabulation. Pathological lying may be the manifestation of an anti-social behavior, such as Antisocial personality disorder, also known as sociopathic behavior.
It should be stated that still other disorders may include chronic lying as part of their description. For example, a person diagnosed with Dissociative identity disorder will deny doing things he or she does not remember. The person may have no memory of an action and will insist that it never happened. However, anyone who had witnessed the action will believe the individual to be lying. This is, of course, an over-simplified version, and any actual situation will be more complicated. Confusing the issue more, some people diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder may also have sociopathic tendencies and intentionally lie about some things.
I would suggest that he should seek a professional help, you and him deserve to overcome this problem and be happy.
2006-11-01 07:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he admits there is a problem he will not get help until he hits rock bottom. You keep taking him back every time and every time he lies all over again. Not to sure how good his heart really is if he keeps doing this. I think your looking threw rose colored glasses. You need to leave and make sure you stay gone until you know for a fact that he isn't lying anymore. Not come back on a promise..How many times does he get to break them before you really see who he is?
2006-11-01 07:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can get help. Have him go see a psychiatrist. He lies because he fears the truth. He probably also has problems facing tough issues, and may often sweep them under the rug. If he admits he has a problem, he can change. Get him help.
2006-11-01 07:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe that a man who lies will continue to do so. If he is willing (and you are) to go to counseling and seek help for this then there is hope for your relationship. however, my question to you would be "if he lies about small insignificant things, what else is he not telling the truth about?"
2006-11-01 07:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by jackie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you deserve better,
Something Specially
For You
I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all.
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-11-01 07:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason that he has to lie?
If you like him, you like what he does. He should be able to tell you about the things he does and you should be happy about it.
If you do NOT like the things he does, then you are with the wrong person.
You go find someone that you like the things they do, and you let him go find someone else.
2006-11-01 07:32:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he lies to you constantly and you can't trust him or have a decent relationship, why do you waste your time with him? It's not out of love. It sounds like total desperation and the fear you won't find someone else. This guy's a loser - move on and do it immediately.
2006-11-01 07:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to get an habbitual liar to stop. and he may have to loose everything before he finally wakes up an realizes he is screwing his whole life up , with his lies.
2006-11-01 07:13:41 · answer #9 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a liar says he's lying what is he saying?
The man has issues. Its up to you to decide if he's worth it (lying and all).
2006-11-01 07:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋