Would you trust that he only looked or would you think the worst?
2006-11-01 07:09:03 · 26 answers · asked by Penguin Gal 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In Vegas, if he didn't go to a gentlemans club I would be surprised. Did he tell you? If so be appreciative that he is honest. And no, do not think the worst. Honestly strippers aren't out to steal your man, they are simply working, they make money to dance. I say trust your hubby unless he gives you reason not to.
2006-11-01 07:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by Carey L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let's drop the euphemisms. "Gentlemen's club" = not soft music with tastefully appointed women discussing macroeconomics in muted tones, but loud wild t*tty bars with naked whores writhing all over men's faces and crotches.
Some guys can go and look and walk away knowing it's pretend and that the women who actually dance in those places mostly hate men and were abused as girls. But they have big boobs or dance sexy and stupid men are easily parted from their cash in such joints so the $$$ is easy.
Other guys "fall in love" after they get a couch dance and obsess on the woman and some girls sell their trim out the back door so guys can always cut off a little slice before going back home to momma.
But you never know how your buddies will react to a strip club.
Ask him - did your buddies buy you a couch dance, watch his face turn funny colors, and then multiply his sins by about 3X. He's trying to cut back so you don't feel like he enjoyed looking or having her smash his face into her 22 year old perky boobs and then you'll get all insecure and stuff about your body (we all look, we all like to look and for most of us it's just that - looking).
2006-11-01 15:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel that men who are in relationships should frequent "Gentlemen's Clubs"... I think that is something for bachelors. Some women don't mind if their significant others go to see strippers... but I do. I don't think it's a matter of trust either, like some people say. I think it's a matter of respect. I understand that men are visual creatures... yada... yada... but I don't agree with going to a club without his partner to see a live person. That's just how I feel about the matter.
Ultimately it doesn't matter how anyone else feels about it. How do YOU feel? If you're upset about it then you have a right to feel that way. You're not being unreasonable if that's the case and you don't need anyone else to tell you that you have a right to feel the way that you do. Many husbands/boyfriends try to tell their women that "it's not a big deal" but if it's a big deal to the woman then the man should consider it a big deal. If it wasn't a "big deal" then it wouldn't be hard for them to pass up. Ya know?
2006-11-01 15:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.
Next trip to that desert ; Go with him. You haven't any way of knowing what really happened. It's possible alot of things did or it's possible nothing other than a bad case of blue balls happened. Don't allow your imagination drive you insane. Just watch to make sure he isn't attending any local clubs and go on all away trips. Check credit card statements etc...
Just be prepared to nip this in the bud.
2006-11-01 15:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how you feel about it personally. If you are naturally an uncomfortable person when it comes to strip clubs, let him know to start off with. There are many options to get over being uncomfortable with the situation, you can have a outgoing moment and offer to go with him as a way to spice things up in your relationship, or go out to your own male strip club with the girls, or theres always a classic "I can do what they do but in the bedroom" solution. Its up to you but the first step is let him know how you feel ;)
2006-11-01 15:32:37 · answer #5 · answered by serinangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but think the worst. A gentlemans club is not really for "Gentle" men, let alone one in Vegas.
2006-11-01 15:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would assume he had an awesome time with these hot chicks grinding all up on him and I am sure he was feeling some T&A. Oh yeah Vegas strippers are hot!!!
2006-11-01 20:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jay G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please...get a life!...if you are sure you want a life alone fat depressed and bitter like a lot of the losers on here then press this issue...otherwise smarten up, make sure hegets everythig he wants at home O to completion A Outdoor, Public BDSM and anytime, place where he wants.or thousands of women are waiting to take your place...oh! Watch the weight and nagging too xx Good Luck
2006-11-01 15:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had this conversation with my wife the other day. What do you women think goes on at these clubs? It makes me wonder what goes on at males strip clubs. Trust me, he would not have the opportunity to do anything but look. It is against the rules to touch them. Do not worry about it. Nothing happened.
2006-11-01 15:15:07 · answer #9 · answered by Bill 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'd be angier at the money lost down some strange woman's underwear or lack thereof. If my husband wants to put money down anyone's outfits, it better be mine.
But I wouldn't think anything else happened. It takes a LOT of money for "extra servicing."
Then again, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, right?
2006-11-01 15:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by tiger_lilly33186 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋