married couples that I know aren't as happy as they thought they would be. I am almost thankful that I am single and not unhappily married like they are. Are you happy in your marriage?
2006-11-01 06:43:07 · 62 answers · asked by lily b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with everyone who says that you get out of marriage only what you put into it. Perhaps your friends went into their marriages with unrealistic expectations. Don't judge your chances of happiness by what your friends say.
2006-11-01 07:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by bobbysgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not logical to expect a person to be always happy all the time. I think, your real trepidation is based on the overall lifespan of happiness in a married person's life versus a single life.
A human being is not an island, simply put. We function better when we can multiply our joys, divide our sorrows. Trite though it sounds, marriage, or finding a partner, is a part and parcel of life nowadays, just like teenage angst, schooling, careers, having babies. If you stay single you may avoid being in an unhappy marriage but you will always probably have a niggling doubt that you ran away from the challenges of life. Marriage is challenging, no doubt. Its hard work. But it has its benefits, like everything else in life.
Be brave, focus on what it is that makes you fear the married life, and you will focus on your own insecurities that are making you hesitate. The basis of all fear is within ourselves, a lack of confidence.
Once you figure yourself out, you will not only be a more mature person but wise enough to know that you can handle anything life - or marriage - throws at you. You will be smart enough to avoid coupling with a man that is himself not mature enough, you will instinctively choose a happy, well-balanced mate that matches your personality and will be able to contribute to a successful union.
Then imagine how wonderful life could be for you.
2006-11-01 06:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by RealChic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am happy with the person I married. But, If I was for some reason to get a divorce, I would never marry again. Marriage is a lot of work and it can't be one sided both people have to work very hard at keeping it together. Communication is the key.
2006-11-01 06:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by MRS. WT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am happy. I came into my marriage under the idea that it was a marriage based first off on love and not convenience or because it was a business decision. My wife and I did premarital counseling and we both knew that sometimes there would be disagreements and every day wouldn't be easy, but we came into marriage knowing that a good marriage does take work. A lot of couples nowadays see marriage as something you can get in quick and if you're not having fun, get out of even quicker.
2006-11-01 07:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am. I was also happy being single. Some people jump into marriage because they either just want to married or don't want to be alone. You have to first be happy with yourself as an individual then make sure when you do meet someone, take your time and make sure they are the love of a lifetime or you will be unhappy.
2006-11-01 06:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very happy in my marriage. My husband and I dated for 8 yrs. before we married and even though everyone told us married life would be different, I have not seen a change. I think that a lot of people are rushing into marriage, so they end up married to someone they don't really know. Some people go into marriage thinking that it will repair or improve a relationship, it wont. Marriage is hard because there are a lot of things to decide or compromise on, but it is also great to share your life with someone who loves you, not because they have to, but because they want to.
2006-11-01 06:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very happy in my marriage. Marriage can be a lot of work, but it is much more rewarding, in my opinion, than single life. I loved being single, and had no plans of ever getting married. However, when I met my wife, that quickly changed. I cannot imagine what my life would be like without her, but I know it would not be as fulfilling.
2006-11-01 07:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It is a lot of work, maintaining that connection and spark. But building a life together is something you can't explain. Having a family beats anything I could ever dream of. But everyone is different some people are perfectly happy being single. Just comes down to what you want. But yes, marriage is not as easy as being single - you have someone else to consider in all your decisions and plans. But I love it :)
2006-11-01 07:50:52 · answer #8 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got married this year in May. I am in my 40's and this is my second marriage. I didn't expect it nor did my husband. It just happened. I fell in love. this is not to say that it doesn't come with problems. Life is full of obstacles, the beauty is that I can talk to my man. Each time we go through obstacles we become stronger and get to know one another. Also this time God is the centre of our lives. If it becomes desperate and I don't know what to do I pray. Understanding comes and issues resolve themselves a little easier. You still have to work at it.
Enjoy being single. Don't turn away love, it is the most important thing. Take your time don't force it. Enjoy each stage of your life and learn from it.
2006-11-01 07:34:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got married about 8 months ago and I am happy u are single AND happy. Many people dont have your same fortune. As far as I am concerned..... I feel like I would be A LOT happier alone. I love my husband but living with some one EVERYDAY can be stressful becuase your personality is bound to crash. All those funny feelings you get when u are datings are gone and slowly other thoughts start to form like: I wish I never met them, Wish things didnt work out. In other words,... I envy you
2006-11-01 06:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always find married couples that are not happy, and you will find singles that are not happy either..
Trust me, I lived the single life for 30 years and got married..In a relationship single or married you have your ups and downs, but I would never trade married life to be single again..When your young single life is good, but the older you get single life starts to suck..You can stay single and find out for yourself..
Happy and married for 6 years..
2006-11-01 06:54:37 · answer #11 · answered by kitsune12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋