He is loving , caring but so hesitatnt to talk sex and forget about making love....
Why sex is a taboo at least with one u got married to??
I get migraines when i am starved of any affection/sex from him. What do i do?? Sex part with him is just missing and he is not cheating on me. He is a great gut but so introvert... What do i do ? Should i forget the sex part in my life???
2006-11-01 06:40:56 · 14 answers · asked by nisha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you need to get to the root of this problem. Force him to talk about it. Let him know that he can tell you anything, and you will not judge him. Ask him about his fantasies, favorite positions, favorite things you do to him, etc. If you think the problem might be physical, tell him there is no embarrassment about going to the doctor. Keep talking until he opens up and talks back. Do not give up!
2006-11-01 07:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate to tell you this but it sounds to me like he is gay. There has got to be some reason for his crazy behavior. You need to take him with you to counseling, and the sooner the better. I have had this same kind of problem with my wife, but that was because she was having an affair with her co-worker. We still live together, but rarely have sex, at least with each other. I go my way, and she goes her way, and we get along just fine. This is not what I bargained for, but it's what I got. I will not give in and leave her, because if anyone does the leaving it will have to be her. The one big red flag is the sex thing. When they don't want to have sex with you anymore, then there is a reason, and you will find it out soon enough. If you are starved for affection, then you need to meet some guy that meets your needs. There's no reason to be sex starved. Isn't this why one gets married? Anyway you never got married to sleep by yourself did you? Go wild, and have some fun while your at it. You might get to liking it and not come back, ha ha!! Good luck!!!
2006-11-01 14:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. He could possibly have been molested as a child/adolescent. Make him feel that it's ok to open up to you and talk about his past.
And no, sex is not that important. He's good to you in every other way, so don't let the sex part make you stray or leave him. He sounds like a good man.
You could be married to a guy that sexes you up real good but beats on you, can't keep a job, cheats, etc. Besides, there are plenty of viberators that can get you there;-).
Good luck to you.
2006-11-01 14:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by Tonya L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never forget about the sex part of your life. Most people open up with a drink a or two, try that. If not then you need to go hard on him, and tell him that sex is an important part of your life, and by him being your partner, he needs to pony up. To hear that he's just not doing it for you in that department might be the wake up call he needs.
Good luck-
2006-11-01 14:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What was your thought process before you two got married? Sounds like he has always been this way. If this part of marriage is so important - why even marry a person who can't live up to your needs?
That said, there can be medical reasons for him to not be very interested in sex. Low testosterone can be one of them, there's a simple blood test to determine it, and there are treatments available. Ask him to consult a doctor.
2006-11-01 14:57:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry that before the two of you got married, this subject wasn't talked about considering it ranks about the same as "Do you want kids?". Instead of asking him to talk about sex which will only make him feel pressured and leave you unsatisfied, ask him what is causing his shyness. This question won't directly answer your question, but it will give you a general idea of why he won't talk about sex.
2006-11-01 15:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like my wife, other then she will make love with me, but as for talking about sex or anything along those lines its a no no. Don't forget the sex part of your life, find another way to release it, tie him to chair and make him watch you please yourself, talking about how much you wish it could be him that was doing the pleasing or something along those lines.
2006-11-01 14:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by bdntitest 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you should not forget the sex part. That is an important part to a marriage. Have you tried being "dirty". Walk around naked. Grab his stuff and make out with him. If he is straight, he will react to a nude woman grabbing his business.
2006-11-01 14:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by TripleTattoo™ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No! Maybe he is having some kind of physical problems? Or maybe something that has happened in his life has made him this way! Try to get some help! Has he always been like this or just lately?
2006-11-01 14:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by panda 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he has some health issues...maybe he is ashamed of the size of his penis..it could be so many things...DO NOT give up on that part of your marriage it is VERY important....give him an ultimatum...tell him either he gets help for this problem or you will leave!
2006-11-01 14:48:13 · answer #10 · answered by kimbersweet 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋