2006-11-01 06:36:30 · 11 answers · asked by olin1963 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Financial affairs, medical history, goals, any ex's of consequence (marriages or important relationships), children from prior relationships, misdemeanor or criminal background, prior jobs, any licenses they held for professional reasons, any history of abusive behavior (verbal or physical), attitudes toward child-rearing and religion. Work ethic, volunteer ethic.
Be sure you know the prospective spouse very well. If you find too many people turning up their nose at him, maybe you are looking through rose-colored glasses. Also, people that have stuff to hide can be very creative, so I suggest you do your own background checking if you feel there is something major.
2006-11-01 06:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way they manage their money.
Your debts become one when you're married and to find out only then that they manage it by crying to mom & dad for help or that they ignore it and have been dodging collections calls for year can be a little frustrating to say the least.
Every couple should have to have a combined savings of 20K before they are allowed to get married. This would make people act financially responsible before they get married. Right away you would know that the person you are marrying is able to pull their finanical weight or is going to try and suck you dry.
2006-11-01 06:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as possible. I always say it would be nice to see a credit report before you get married. You never know what has gone on with your future spouse financially until sometimes its too late. His/her bad credit could prevent you from doing a lot of what you want to do.
2006-11-01 06:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by stephanne1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alfawolfe nailed it. Sounds cold but speaking from one who didn't do all that.......it's a friggin nightmare when those little "secrets" blow up in your face. I'm dealing with the fallout of things that have nothing to do with me. Things you don't even think about or even think would effect you. I blindly took him at his word and within one year of marraige the whole thing started to crumble. I even did it as an "adult" who should have known better. But I didn't want to re-hash the past, "understood" the shortcommings of the few things he was half-way honest about and was ready to move ahead. My "mistakes" were cleaned up before I ever met him. No past luggage to drag into a new relationship. Unfortunatly it wasn't the case for him. He cleaned up nothing. He kept running away from it and it caught up to US. I still look at myself in the mirror and want to knock myself senseless for being so darned stupid. I mean he lied to me about EVERYTHING!!!! I mean literally down to his name. Well now it's his real name.....but it wasn't for a good 20 years. So he seperated his infringements by the name he was using at the time and that justified his "lies". He's not a real mental multiple personality as with an understandable disease. That's just how far he went to keep being responsible for his actions. When things got tough he ran to another part of the country, took another name and made a go till it looked liked things were closing in and move again. Imagine my surprise! Puts a whole new light on player! And I'm queen sucker. Trust me, everything.....need to know everything.
2006-11-01 08:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything - but be assertive.
I wouldn't "expect" everything to be told to you - Check up yourself.
There is a dozen place on the internet to do personal checks. Every women should empower themselves with this information way before marriage is even discussed.
2006-11-01 06:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 22:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by jarvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything. No sense in shopwing up to the church to hear that your fiance is 80 grand in the hole.
2006-11-01 06:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say everthing, it will eventually come out. The truth is the best way to go.
2006-11-01 06:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by Susa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any skeletons that you each have in the closet, financial info and what expectations you have on that, parenting beliefs
2006-11-01 06:42:40 · answer #9 · answered by meoorr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything you think will cause problems if they find out afterwards.
2006-11-01 06:59:04 · answer #10 · answered by eehco 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋