My mom called, and for once it was me that picked up the phone first. I noticed a "handset in use" warning on the phone, indicating the other phone was off the hook.
After the call I ran upstairs to check and I'm pretty sure I caught my wife eavesdropping.
I'm wondering how to confront her about this. We've been separated off and on over the course of our marriage.
2006-11-01 06:02:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope - didn't cheat on her. She's insecure though because of our age difference (she's 13 years older) and various other things.
2006-11-01 06:19:46 · update #1
she has a big lack of trust an i would confront her on this an ask her to stop. she might think you are just getting ready for the next split an have someone on the side.
2006-11-01 06:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm answering this ONLY from a perspective of listening in on phone lines, there is debate as to if someone using a cordless on an open frequency with no encryption or anything falls under this, there are specific laws at the federal and most states, but they are highly contested, and often not enforced. As a general rule, it is legal to listen to any unencrypted signal, cell phones get an exception because in the early days there was no alternative (you couldn't just plug in the cell phone and eliminate the wireless, where you have a choice to use a corded or cordless phone). Now for the "phone line" part of the law: Most states are what are called "1 party states", some are "2 party states", I "think" NY is a 1 party state but not sure without looking it up. All states fall into one of these catagories. What that means is that at least 1 party needs to be notified that the call is being monitored/recorded (and in a 2 party state, both parties). Why someone would do a deal like that over an open cordless phone is beyond me, but either way, it probably won't be admissible in court. However, it "may" be enough to get the police started on an investigation.
2016-05-23 03:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want another separation, then let it go. What do you expect anyway? You guys are on again, off again, so she's just being a little paranoid that you find someone on the side. It's perfectly normal. Instead of confronting her, just come out and tell her who was on the phone, irregardless of the fact that she obviously knows by her eavesdropping. Once you two are on equal grounds and she's sure the marriage isn't going to break up again, she'll slowly let you have some peace and quiet to talk on the phone.
2006-11-01 06:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel she was eavesdropping. You said their is a (handset in use) indicater. Maybe she picked it up and heard you and your mother so she just didn't hang up the phone properly. She must know their is an indicator on the phone so don't be too fast to judge. If you been that long with her and have not yet caught her eavesdropping, why should she start today, i give her the benefit of the doubt.
2006-11-01 06:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play a trick on her. Have a friend call and set up a fake conversation like you won some money. She'll then confront you and you can make your case against her. Why should she have all the fun. Show her that she is wrong and maybe she'll leave you alone. Look at this question I just found, LOL.
2006-11-01 06:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by RIDLEY 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be saying anything that she can't hear, it's just your mother. Or you can try calling and talking to your mother on your cell phone out of hearing from your wife. Sometimes you want your privacy while talking on the phone. Try the reverse phycallogy, listen in on her phone calls and maybe she will get the message.
2006-11-01 06:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's secretly still wants u, but she is ensecure about ur relationship. She had lost ur trust somewhere or communcation
has lessen. Take her out just the two of you and work on building a strong relationship.
2006-11-01 06:07:41 · answer #7 · answered by csabrinam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't care, because I have nothing to hide. I talk on the phone in front of her constantly. We are a trusting couple, and i don't feel like she is invading my privacy.
2006-11-01 06:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How insecure. If that was my husband I would start talking about some sordid sexual conduct or std and see what would happen (I would probably hear him laughing in the other room)
2006-11-01 06:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by Honeypai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not surprised you have been separated. She has some DEEP trust issues. Confront her, and get to counseling.
2006-11-01 06:07:32 · answer #10 · answered by geekgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋