I want to know if there will be any problem due to our age difference.
2006-11-01 06:01:26 · 21 answers · asked by joke_fr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's only a problem with the age difference only if YOU both let it.
You might get other people to oppose to it or other strangers thinking that you're father and daughter, that's their problem, not yours.
You're both consenting adults, you both love each other, you want to start a life together, I don't see why not.
2006-11-01 06:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are significantly older than your mate, you may lose patience with her level of immaturity, lack of life experience, and learning process. After all, you've already gone through a lot of what she's dealing with; you've realized it's not the end of the world when you go through a crisis, because it always works out in the end; you've made mistakes and figured out how to do things the right way. So it's not easy watching your younger partner stumble through these same life experiences.
When you have ten, twenty years of life experience than your partner has, you will find it next to impossible not to offer advice, correct, and direct her. After all , you've been through this before--you know the best way to do it. Of course your intentions are loving; you're only trying to help. But the effect can be very destructive to your relationship.
You’re naive if you think your age differences don’t matter. They do, but so do all the other differences in your circumstances and personalities. So ignoring this issue, or any issue, won’t work. The more you insist that there aren’t any problems, the more you are probably suppressing your concerns for fear that they will sabotage the relationship.
2006-11-01 06:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age isn't that big of a deal right now...but add twenty or thirty years and think about it...
I say this because I was 32 when I got involved with and married a man who was 50. At the time all was well...ten years later, the difference in our ages sometimes seems astronomical.
Evaluate your ideals and beliefs VERY carefully before you make this step. For instance, my husband's ideals come from the 18th Century...He's MAN, I'm not...therefore, my JOB is to take care of him, the family, the house, the cars, the animals, and everything else that comes along, WHILE I'm catering to him.
It ain't workin' for me no more...
However, the years we had, until the last couple were worth the time as far as I'm concerned. Yes, we are divorcing, but I firmly believe that we are all a product of our life's experiences...and I am a better person having spent the last ten years with him, even considering his eccentricities.
I guess my advice is this...go with your heart, I hope that all works out well for you and your lucky lady!
Good Luck!
2006-11-01 06:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by Silly Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know if ya love each other enough no obstacle will get in the way. I don't think at 55 and 31, it makes a difference you have both been around long enough to make that decision. my son is 31 and his girl is 47 they have been together for 5 yrs. I am 52 and my man is 47 we have been together for 9 years and its still good!
2006-11-01 06:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by suzi m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends if you are on similar intellectual and economic levels. Anytime anyone marries out of the "levels," it *could* portend problems. Do you get along most of the time? Do you enjoy each others' families? Are your activity levels similar? Do you spend the weekends together successfully? Do you share well? These are things to consider, other than that age is a factor down the road, but perhaps not so much yet.
2006-11-01 06:36:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
go for it,nothing wrong,live for today,there is no Guarantee in Life,with the divorce rate this Days,its all the same,you love each other,that's what counts.Good Luck!
2006-11-01 08:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by karl s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not if you love each other ...don't be silly every marriage I've seen last more than five years had an age difference of at least nine years. GOOD LUCK
2006-11-01 06:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by joe h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man she a grown woman you a grown man. She loves you you love her in other countries this world that would be natural. If age dont bother her it shouldnt be an iussue. ANd folks who forwn upon it are just haters and immature
2006-11-01 06:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by Arthur D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister is 56 husband is 76. They have been married for 24 years now. Go for it!!!
2006-11-01 06:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by momof3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yes. maybe not right away but it will catch up with both of you. Women will be tolerant of and accept quite a lot, but it's kind of cruel to ask a woman of her age to take on a lifelong social and sexual partner who will not be able to keep up with her. And kind of cruel to even *expect* you to do so!
Be kind to yourself and this lady -- find another, more age appropriate person.
2006-11-01 06:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by fantushinka 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋