I have a pretty, loving wife, a great new job that I like (and i like the poeple i work with, more importantly), and yet I feel like i'm friggin miserable. Why? Why am I never happy with anything? Why is nothing good enough for me? Does anyone else feel like this? What did you do? (And please don't tell me to find God. I know - he's always in the last place you look :) )
2006-11-01 05:58:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your missing something that will complete ur happiness take some time off and figure it out im pretty sure its somethin u never expected to make u feel so go0d
2006-11-01 06:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some People Are Never Happy
2017-01-19 08:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by broughman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, some people do... It's called "depression". Have you ever been evaluated by a medical professional? I strongly recommend it. I've been struggling with these same feelings you're describing for most of my life. In fact, for a long time, I didn't even realize there was anything "wrong" with feeling this way - I mean, the truth is, nothing really matters because at the end we're all gonna die, right? But there IS a different way to look at things, and it is impossible to arrive to by a logical thought process; it is simply something you "feel", and it is wickedly difficult to *make* yourself "feel" a certain way. I was finally diagnosed with clinical depression when I was in my late 20s, and given medication. It helped a lot in turning my outlook a few shades brighter - although, I don't think I will ever be as "happy go lucky" as some people seem to be, I've gone waaay too long contemplating the "darker" sides of reality, and I'm simply more aware of these things having explored them in detail in the past. But there has been an undoubted turn for the better since I've started taking the medication (Wellbutrin, to be exact). I've heard that spiritual experiences can also help with this - but I am neither spiritual nor religious, never have been, and probably never will be. Therapy has been helpful to some people; I have never tried it because of the cost and the time constraints. I woudl strongly recommend seeing a doctor about your condition. There ARE ways to help it.
I found "Existential Psychotherapy" by Irvin Yalom fascinating. Gave me a lot of insight into my ways of thinking. Also, "The Happiness Hypothesis" by Jonathan Haidt might be of interest.
2006-11-01 06:15:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I think you and I have ALOT in common.......I have the perfect everything and some days I am just as miserable as hell.....Then I feel miserable for feeling miserable! It really is friggin' crazy isn't it? I wish I had an easy answer for you......It sucks big time to just never actually feel content with my life. I should but I don't. Try searching deep in your soul and trying to find what it is exactly that you are not getting or not doing that would make you happy. I found mine.....problem is I don't wan tot make everyone else in my life miserable if I were to just do it! So I guess until I am strong enough to just go for it I guess I am stuck being miserable..........
2006-11-01 06:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well yes a person could go there whole life with out ever filling just. the reason is is that Happy is a state of mind as is any other filling including love (although you cant choose who you love you do choose to keep loving that person despite what the day may bring) it is all in your perspective you can choose to smile even when there's nothing to smile about just as you can choose to frown. My guess is that there is something you left out something that you are hiding from others in your life or at least something big if that's the case then you need to find a way of coming out with it so that you can choose to be happy. Just my opinion if that's not the case then maybe you could talk to your doctor maybe you have a severe case of depression which could easily bring you down on a constant basis. What ever your problem lies on I would seek help from your wife at least and get down to the core of what ever it is.
Good Luck
2006-11-01 06:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by Since birth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever been where nothing is going right? Look back if you have it may help you, if not then let me tell you my worse day is better then the last. I felt things were bad until I lost my 5 month old niece to heart failure, 13 days later I had 4 strokes and my little bro killed him self in my drive way trying to get to me.Try looking at the neg. side and compare it to the pos. be happy because thing can be worse. And you could be alot less happier.
2006-11-01 06:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by martha g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find an outside interest, or take a class. You need time for yourself, outside work people, your wife or regular circle of friends. Figure out what your favorite thing to do it, there has got to be a monthly club or organization for it. Maybe do some charity work - give back, make someone else happy and you'll be surprized that it's you who is happy too.
2006-11-01 06:06:52 · answer #7 · answered by Honeypai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of things we are exposed to through TV, Movies, Books, etc. set up unrealistic expectations and we feel that our lives don't measure up. And when we see that guy with a great career or that woman with a wonderful marriage -- we need to remember that we don't know what's really going on behind the scenes. I think happiness is often a decision.
2006-11-01 06:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by jazzman6812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Jennifer L, it's about perspective because I am in the same position as you and some days it works, some days it doesn't. Really, you might want to try talking to a counselor. I've been meaning to myself but figure I'm so nuts whoever I see will end up taking out a restraining order.
2006-11-01 06:02:54 · answer #9 · answered by skygirl_21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 09:37:12 · answer #10 · answered by dobard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋